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1) If I need to use a safe word, that means we're at a point where a whole sentence isn't going to be possible.

2) It seems as if you do not realize how difficult it is to talk with a ballgag in your mouth. If you can't find a ballgag in your drawer, try this simulation: Put a nectarine, a whole nectarine, in your mouth and bite down. Now try to say "mint" or really anything. Can you? Of course you can't. That's the point. 

A safe word has to be short, not something you would normally use during sex, and in the instance where gags are used, something that can be easily understood for what it's meant to be.

Can you be more specific? There are a variety of relationship styles that some define as "BDSM".

Well yes I'm a virgin who has never been ball gagged. I said earlier I don't know if I need a safe word as I am a virgin. I would want a safeword for my partner so I know I am not going too much harm.

Cricket stated: source post

1) If I need to use a safe word, that means we're at a point where a whole sentence isn't going to be possible.

2) It seems as if you do not realize how difficult it is to talk with a ballgag in your mouth. If you can't find a ballgag in your drawer, try this simulation: Put a nectarine, a whole nectarine, in your mouth and bite down. Now try to say "mint" or really anything. Can you? Of course you can't.

Come on, there are ways around that. Sing a tune or smth. :D 

You should really attempt normal sex before throwing in other things imo.

It highly depends on the people involved, and the reasons they have for doing it. 

To me, it doesn't feel like I'm doing something unnatural or being forced into anything, it doesn't even feel like roleplaying. If anything, playing a relationship out more normally feels like I'm roleplaying, as that's not how I'd be naturally. The "bdsm relationship" to me is more of a discussion of things we like and are comfortable doing, and from it our own body language seems to develop alongside deeper, more honest discussions. I like pain, I like being dragged around, I like being bossed around when it's done right, so why wouldn't I want that to be outside of the bedroom? Part of my brat-like behavior is to elicit those responses, wanting them to give into those violent impulses for my own benefit, take control of the situation for my own enjoyment. Before I even really knew much about bdsm I still had who I was with at the time punching me as a form of flirting, because that's what was natural between the two of us after getting to know one another. 

I don't even read it like a bdsm relationship, I read it more like a relationship that reflects the things that we truly enjoy. Why limit myself when I can have what I crave instead? The only times that it feels a little more above and beyond normalcy is when I'm wearing a collar in public and being leashed around from place to place, and that's more of a thing that's (currently) reserved for conventions or events. It's a lack of pretense when compared to a life without these honest expressions of the self. It's liberating to be with someone who gets me that I also get back, expressed through compatible kinks and lifestyle preferences. 

ThenFuckit stated: source post

I don't know.

Constant power exchange, giving power to your partner and/or your partner giving you the power, all the time, 24/7.

I am not really sure what kind of styles there are that can fit the above definition.

Every relationship is different. I think in any relationship though, one partner is typically more dominant than the other. A relationship where one officially has all the control all the time is known in some circles as TPE (Total Power Exchange). In TPE, what the alpha says is what happens - always. Everything that the sub does is in the interest of the alpha or the relationship. The alpha is responsible for the sub and ideally keeps the interest and well-being of the sub in mind when making decisions, though the end decision is always up to him/her. Sometimes these relationships will have written contracts defining terms that allow the sub to leave or establish boundaries for the alpha, which is kinda pointless since the the aplha can do what he/she wants and has the ability to over-ride the contract anyway. Even those partners might still behave quite normal in public. 

WW3 stated: source post

somebody could choke on that :P

I know ;D 

Edvard stated: source post

 

Cricket stated: source post

1) If I need to use a safe word, that means we're at a point where a whole sentence isn't going to be possible.

2) It seems as if you do not realize how difficult it is to talk with a ballgag in your mouth. If you can't find a ballgag in your drawer, try this simulation: Put a nectarine, a whole nectarine, in your mouth and bite down. Now try to say "mint" or really anything. Can you? Of course you can't.

Come on, there are ways around that. Sing a tune or smth. :D 

 

 

 I think we've found a new safe word... Uh, song...

I don't know.

Constant power exchange, giving power to your partner and/or your partner giving you the power, all the time, 24/7.

I am not really sure what kind of styles there are that can fit the above definition.

somebody could choke on that :P

Turncoat stated: source post

No, like, really. His upbringing did him no favors, his eyes were these intense near-manic looking things that practically never blinked, his means of insulting a person is really... something else, and he genuinely assumed that the world revolved around him, that everyone needed to respect him, and he'd only talk with those who would play into his self-absorbed narrative. 

This guy was really bizarre to deal with, and more bizarre than that was watching what he could do to the blatantly weak targets he'd go for. It's no coincidence that he picked Furry Culture to infiltrate as his hunting ground, as they are highly insecure people, usually with parenting problems in their past, with a high rate of suicidal ideation. 

Except for the suicide cases as targets, that guy sounds a lot like you.

Not sure if the religion is true in your case bc you've never stated it explicitly, but your ideological bent is not exactly atheist leftish.

Your mod style screams napoleon/ god complex.