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We had encyclopedias.

You're a bit condescending, are you aware of that?

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You rock, Dani! Thank you for your input. It is very insightful. Especially in basically saying one would have to live the life of many people, not just their own, to figure it all out on their own. 

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"Have you been avoiding me Tryp? I figured you and I have just never really clicked or something. Never thought to read any more into it."

No, I've no reason to avoid you. In fact, I never noticed we've hardly spoken until now. I suppose there just hasn't been a reason for us to engage in conversation.

"How easily can you be persuaded to trust another person's point of view over your own?"

That depends on how reasonable the person is to me. It's a slippery slope, I know. We're all subject to our own biases.

I've learned to trust my instincts, as they have proven repeatedly to be more valid than the thoughts of others. Regardless, receptiveness to other perspectives is not an issue for me. Integration of said perspectives is a matter of personal conviction, and I'm rather cynical.

The direct answer to your question would be "not easily," although I tend to be open-minded.

"Do you easily switch sides if someone gives you an opposite opinion of someone over your own?"

No.

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Sugar stated: source post

i think the important thing when trying to look at a new perspective, or encouraging others to do the same, is that you can't force it. it won't happen instantly, and takes patience and acceptance.

That is also a good point. It's better not to try and force your view on other people. It's controlling and manipulative, and both parties gain nothing from it. It's also good to learn when to recognize when you've been wasting your time. Patience and acceptance is all good until you realise you're on a one way street. Reciprocation is a good indicator of what you're investing in. Some people will never see past their own view point and have no intention of giving more of themselves than is necessary to fulfill their own needs. It's better to let go when that is the case. You can't win them all as the saying goes.

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Xena stated: source post

 

You kids probably don't remember what it was like to own a set of handsome books, do you?

i actually just started building a book collection. actual books, not anything digital. i prefer holding a book and turning the pages since it makes the experience better and i already spend enough time looking at glowing squares (lecture powerpoints, phone, laptop, etc). i hope physical books don't end up becoming extinct.

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i think the important thing when trying to look at a new perspective, or encouraging others to do the same, is that you can't force it. it won't happen instantly, and takes patience and acceptance.

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ImNotHer stated: source post

What is the point of learning to look at things from another perspective? Why should we consider the view point of other people? Why is it a good idea to consider our own viewpoint might be limiting?

Well I like to admit I don't know everything. I know everyone has some knowledge to share. I think my own perspective would suffice if I thought I was god... I'm in no way saying every perspective will be good in my eyes. I just have to say every perspective can teach me something. 

I just know that there are such things as misunderstandings, I know people have different experiences. I would not want to hold people to my standards of life without living a day with their experiences and biological chemistry. I can't say I would not do better or worse in their situation.

Can't we just figure it all out on our own? Shouldn't we just trust all our own judgment of the world and the people around us?

Well I like to think to minds are better than one. I can come up with creative ideas on how to make an airplane and even design the engines and how they work. I still won't get the plane to fly. I have someone else who is creative come up with an aerodynamic wing design. i do think two minds are better than one when it comes to creativity. 

Isn't it better to just think you know enough already?

So far my advanced human knowledge has not brought to me conclude the existence or non existence of aliens.

I should say... When I was young I thought the idea of god was so boring. I mean who would want to live forever doing the same shit over and over. I read one passage that said he can do infinite wonders. I want to learn forever and never assume I know too much. I will most likely always assume I know too little even if I lived for a thousand years. I still want to know more. I need the stimulation of new experiences. It is why I love road trips so much! 

The hard way of learning the truth is better, right?

Well only for the times someone does not understand it the easy way...

It may not get you the whole truth, or even a sliver of the truth, but at least you won't be made a fool of, yeah?

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At least your ego gets to stay in tact! Because let's face it, that's what strong people do. Protect themselves from risk to ego damage. What has anyone ever learned by risking being made a fool of? 

I'm not sure if this is reverse psychology. I already think being open to different perspectives is good.

What has anyone ever learned from failing?

Well actually failure reminds me I am in real life and not a dream. It even helps me be more creative because I need to think more.

Probably how to succeed. That might be another way to look at it.

 

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ImNotHer stated: source post

 

Sugar stated: source post

i think the important thing when trying to look at a new perspective, or encouraging others to do the same, is that you can't force it. it won't happen instantly, and takes patience and acceptance.

That is also a good point. It's better not to try and force your view on other people. It's controlling and manipulative, and both parties gain nothing from it. It's also good to learn when to recognize when you've been wasting your time. Patience and acceptance is all good until you realise you're on a one way street. Reciprocation is a good indicator of what you're investing in. Some people will never see past their own view point and have no intention of giving more of themselves than is necessary to fulfill their own needs. It's better to let go when that is the case. You can't win them all as the saying goes.

but how long does that take? should we even put a limit on it? i try to accept people for who they are unless their 'perspective' is largely damaging, most likely on an intimate level. putting any kinda limit on insignificant differences can stifle growth, and i think anyone who is willing to momentarily entertain a different perspective has the capacity to endorse it completely if they so choose.

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back to andromeda, bitch

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Putting yourself into another perspective makes it easier to speak directly into their heads. If you can phrase things similarly to how they already think, then you can guide their thought processes towards your own. Perspective taking is the ability to learn a mind's language. It's a tool of manipulation with understanding as it's codex. Without it being done on either side you might as well be speaking gibberish, as without bothering to perspective take you're really just talking to yourself. 
 

Daniella stated: source post
i hope physical books don't end up becoming extinct.

I don't imagine that the trees that bled to become those precious books would share this sentiment, nor the hippies, forest rangers, and Planeteers that aim to protect them. 

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