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Cadaver stated: source post

Not mine 

What's your definition of rape then? 

the most painful rape would be anal rape with objects. since both genders have butts, the most fucked up type of rape affects both genders equally

but without an object, man on man rape is definitely more fucked than man on woman because there's no choice but to have rough anal sex, which is definitely much more painful and damaging, since anal tissue is much thinner and assholes weren't made to take dick. of course a man can anally rape a woman, but on average its worse for men because there's no other option. 

but man on woman is almost ubiquitously more painful than woman on man, obviously. vaginas aren't covered with any skin like penises, so not only are they more susceptible to disease but physical pain, scaring, prolapse, etc. its hard to imagine a woman causing too much physical pain from her cooch alone.  although there was this one story of some pornstar breaking a dude's dick, so anything is possible

I'm open to any definition and logical reasoning the leads to "girls can't rape" and in my new extended definition "men can't be raped". I'm flexible in that way. 

That's exactly what I said from the start good job finally understanding it.

In other words, you'll change your definition so that it supports your narrow views? Thank you. That's all I needed to know.

Women can't be raped, its called being molested.

But men can only be raped.

Yes i changed my definitions, because fuck communication!

Daniella stated: source post

no. i only took physical suffering into account. 

part of me is inclined to say that the emotional consequences are roughly equal, but i do honestly have a feeling men would suffer more damage because of their supposed roles in society and how emasculating it would feel.

This is good reasoning. I was considering the same. Gender roles may play a part in how psychologically damaging it is. Men are expected to be too strong to be overpowered in such a way. If a woman tells you she's been raped you probably won't be surprised much. If a man tells you, not only might it shock you that the act even occurred, but you may be shocked a man would ever confess such a thing in the first place. I have this theory that a man would suffer more shame and for longer. Women are kind of conditioned through shame just in gender expectations alone. Women are slut shamed, body shamed, and shamed more when they fail in the nurture role. So even though rape is still a terrible experience for a woman, I still feel she is already so familiar with a particular kind of shame, that it may not cause the psychological damage to the extent that it would a man.

So you feel the more physically painful rape is, the more psychologically damaging? What if we took pain out of the equation... Would rape still be effective if no physical pain were involved?

I'm so glad we're on the same page. 

I imagine there are many factors that determine how well a survivor fares so I don't think suffering can be broken out solely along gender.
With that said, there also seems to be less help for men and because of the male stereotype to be 'tough' I can see it being hard.  

I struggle with the idea that a woman could rape a man resulting in intercourse. I'm sure it is possible, I just don't understand it.