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Emotional insecurities come from real or imagined weaknesses of a person and an important fear of failure and rejection. And yeah I think they are connected with low self esteem. They can be a pain in the ass when people act on them, it's draining and annoying, and insecurities often lead to self-sabotage and self-fulfilling prophecies (like, insecurity in relationships leads to break-ups, professional insecurity reflects on your work and puts others off, etc).

As far as insults go, it depends on each person how hard they take it. To me, being called a "coward" is much worse. I take it as a personal challenge to prove otherwise and act rashly with unpleasant consequences for both the provoker and myself.

its supposed to make you feel more insecure.

"So the insecurity is basically a weakness (real or not)" - Sensitive Soul

Yes.

Ed.  What makes you sensitive to this word?  The reason I ask, I don't see cowardice in you.  I can't see where you might see it in yourself.  I know it's a button of yours... hell, I may have pressed it in the past, and I read where you are getting better at your reactions to the word, but where does this insecurity come from?  Or, do you know, and that is a bit off private info?

I bought a car off of this one, as a favor too cause of the cars poor condition. He was persistent about getting paid for it, then he never even signed the ownership to me. He thought of it as a convenience because at the time I wasn't going to drive it.

I had him as a roommate before too. He'd be very uptight about supplies, where as I never gave a damn. I supplied the most toilet paper anyway, but around the end of my time there, the other roommate would get caught in the middle of such nonsense. Like I buy toilet paper, then drama man would pull in the other roommate and split on toilet paper, then when that was low, he'd come to me and say it's my turn again. So it was  my turn, then their turn and it carried on like that. I never reacted to it, and that started driving him crazy, because seriously, it's petty and shameful behavior. The other roommate and I now have an awkward relationship because of that. He feels a bit ashamed for being a part of that.

I think the reason for this is how much I appealed to women compared to him. The woman down the street was angry with me, because I never called her back, this other woman we met brought me to her place and would call me, we don't talk cause I had to friendzone her and she saw me with my ex, so she brushed me off. Then my ex would come over all the time, I couldn't stop her, then this other girl used to come around and we'd chat, then my own friends wife who has the hots for me, would come over. The little guy had a teenage daughter, he never liked when my comments made her laugh. He said women love me because I'm tall. Every time they came he would recite his interesting topics of discussion. One time he put his hands on one of my lady's shoulders and playfully shook her, we just went still and quiet, while he laughed it off and casually left the scene.

Another time he told me how this girl came to check on me at the door, and "he told her I was with my ex in my room" and it's a bad time. Then he said how he was looking out for me. I told him, if a girl calls on me, just let me know, just because my ex is here doesn't mean I'm trying to hide the fact women call on me. The woman at the door and myself just laughed about it later on. ( Insecure people cockblock their so called friends )

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There are people with a high self esteem. Very successful, and they have a lot to loose. Some of them are insecure, and they do insecure things, like become obsessive and attempt to isolate the person they obsess over from their friends and family. Low self esteem is not a problem for them, cause they are good at doing what it is they do to make serious income.

Even the insecure little man, has self esteem, otherwise he wouldn't be pulling the sensational bull shit he does. Takes a bit of nerve to piss on people the way they do.

It's a soft spot since people here are very insecure and needy for validation.

the truther stated: source post

Idk why people take being called "insecure" as an insult...people call me insecure and i'm just like ok, so fucking what? Is that supposed to be an insult?

Usually, "autistic" is given greater insult status than "insecure" around here, I think.

I assume people might look inside if they are called insecure. (OMG maybe I'm insecure!!!)

But no one is called autistic based on any real grounds. It's just an empty phrase on the same theme as retard. Sure it is used a lot, but it it doesn't mean shit.

autist

Of course.  It's like "Insecurity Battleship" and is among a few preliminary salvos to map the topography of someone's weaknesses or emotional reactions.  Autism holds more weight here, though, since it's a way to see if purported (or self-diagnosed) psychopaths or sociopaths have their doubts and weeds some pretenders or amateurs.  It's some sort of insecurity based on one's perception of empathy, I guess.  The subtle exoneration of "real" empathy deficit -- such as psychopathy -- is a fun touch.  As though it's bad to be found NOT to be psychopathic or sociopathic.

"Sorry, you're not a malignant antisocial narcissist incapable of conscience and real human relationship.  You're just a benignly maladaptive neural anomaly, whom is entirely capable of humanity."

I'm likely over-analyzing and making horrible analogies.  On purpose?  I don't even know.

Virus stated: source post

"So the insecurity is basically a weakness (real or not)" - Sensitive Soul

Yes.

Ed.  What makes you sensitive to this word?  The reason I ask, I don't see cowardice in you.  I can't see where you might see it in yourself.  I know it's a button of yours... hell, I may have pressed it in the past, and I read where you are getting better at your reactions to the word, but where does this insecurity come from?  Or, do you know, and that is a bit off private info?

 

I wouldn't call it insecurity, I know I am not a coward, but I still find the word offensive. If someone talks shit about your mother for example, it can piss you off just for seeing the intention behind it. I grew up and then spent my life in a line of work/environment where cowardice was thought of as a weakness, and meant you are prone to failure and less of a man for it. It's one of those deep seated things that just form in the subconscious I guess, like values.