I'm not trying to paint my mother in a bad light, I am just going with patterns and facts.
Why do you feel the need to point this out? Why do you care if your mother is painted in a bad light on a forum full of strangers?
These are my ideas as to why:
1) you have an irrational fear she will find out what you said, the message being for her, and not us.
2) because you are very empathetic, and the idea of hurting somebody who hurts you still does not feel justified,
As of lately (less when I was younger) iv felt like my mother only cares about herself. Like nobody else matters.
Kinda like a narcissist?
When I was younger I thought she was the best mom ever. Although I don't remember much of my childhood. I do remember my mother always painting my dad in a negative light ( I believe she did this to gain sympathy from me and gain control over me from my father)
Common narcissistic trait is common. She has to be the favorite in her mind, or perhaps she painted him in a negative light because he honestly was a negative person.
She was never satisfied. I remember this time my dad came home from work. My dad was unhappy with the way my mother cooked potatoes (he likes them mashed, no chunks) when my dad confronted her, it was his fault, because "you're to picky"
So I imagine she has feelings of being inferior based off this. Why get defensive, when she can be offensive instead?
I remember times when she was drunk while getting me off the school bus. She often smoked weed while I was in the car. She told me her joints where "little cigarettes"
She is an adult doing adult things, this doesn't hurt you. She is maintaining a life of being a mom, a wife, and her own life.
Just the other day, I forgot my iPad open. It had a picture of my bum on it ( I was sending to a guy friend) when she walked by and seen "is that your bum?" She asked. "Yes" replied. "Oh it's a nice bum then".
See now I'm curious about your age and gender, I can tell you are European. Maybe 16? Guy friend? Hmm. . I'll assume female for now. Moreover, why are you telling us this? Too much butter, not enough bread.
A couple days later her and I went to my aunt and cousins. We were all at the tabled conversing, joking and having a good time. She told them about this. I was very embarrassed and shameful. But brushed it off as a joke.
So you realize you are not a sociopath right? Ok, good. Because this pretty much proves that.
There are so many other evens I could use as example but I'd be here all day. I believe I have been conditioned.
Well, if you stop doing stupid shit you don't want people to poke fun at, then either stop doing the stupid shit. Or "grow a pair". If this is supposed to be some sort of example of "abuse" or some maltreatment, you are expecially thin skinned.
If she is. It's a hard pill to swallow. I just want clarity. I just want to be able to help myself mend and grow is the best way that I can. But I honestly don't know how to do that.
Well here are some helpful tips just for you.
1) grow up
2) suck it up
3) get over it
4) realize your life is easy as shit
-personal note-
Opening this post I assumed I would get to read about some childhood trauma, my younger years were spent sleeping in a barn, shitting in a bucket, and being starved. That's just a fragment of the shit I put up with. Coming to a forum and crying because your mother embarrassed you isn't abuse, it isn't making you a sociopath, you are "being conditioned". You are honestly a thin skinned whiny, entitled bitch. You came here for the truth of what we think, well here are some facts, swallow it, or just keep crying.