"Welcome to quickiemart." stab
Scary quick reply, hm.
I'm pretty slow in chat as well, actually. But my point was that the more time I get the more control I have over my my replies, which helps if the conversation is one of 'pressure'. In real life I tend to actively avoid confrontational conversations until I've mentally prepared myself and figured out what arguments to use, what counter-arguments to expect etc. I'd like to map out the whole thing in my head before I jump into it.
I might not easily 'lose my cool' if pressured in real life, but the difference between getting a few seconds to reply versus a couple of minutes is huge. To limit the amount of information I mistakenly and/or unwittingly broadcast (that could be used to gain insight into my person) I need to be able to think through my answers. Having someone in my face makes that harder.
Yes, physical presence has a direct-ness to it that a chat or forum don't. In real life, when someone finishes their question, it's expected of the other person to pretty much immediately answer it. Being silent ten seconds every time before replying would seem strange. Plus I can't go back and correct whatever I say in real life.
At least you think AI hasn't come so far yet. ;)
Then it sounds like it is a lot with physical presence as well. And maybe your lack of imagination. For me, every chatter here has a sort of here-ness, they have looks and a voice. Maybe that makes it more real for me.
Because even if I am totally wrong about the person, at least I can never be wrong that they are a person. AI hasn't come so far yet. ;)
Where do you get verbally assaulted irl with absolutely 0 threat?
Here, any verbal assault has at least a 50/50 chance of being followed by a flying fist. I always respond in some way, even if it's only to duck into some kind of camouflage and start throwing things ]:D
jk. I usuallly try to avoid violence if I can. Sometimes that means letting my wall eye twitch and my face go all red while I scream back. Sometimes I can just ignore the loser and walk on. Sometimes a simple "piss off" works. It depends on the verbal assaulter in question. There have been times when I had to fight, too.