Cunt.
Instead of thinking about what I want to do next, I perspective take, thinking instead about what they ought to do next for the sake of us both. I instigate by nature to get the outcomes I want by manipulating myself into what's required to get the responses I want out of people based on my own behaviors. Through controlling myself, I can control the things around me. Through others predictability I find sanctuary and reusable resources.
I tried typing it a few other times earlier, but they ended up as long winded backstories that gave the impression of both justifying and enabling my behaviors. This topic isn't about justification, it's about what we do, so I tried to leave it simpler instead of turning it into something larger than it's roots.
I suppose the "why" portion arguably tangents into the grander scheme, but it really doesn't add up to much more than the above.