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Mind Games.


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Mind games. Disordered People especially ones with PD's play them like its something of second nature. The believe by outsiders is that we do it for and yes I will admit that some of it is for fun. The part no one likes to talk about is how it's also a method of coping for us disordered folk. It's our way of ensuring we aren't fucked with or played ourselves. Not healthy people. I understand kust how wrong it is and yet unconsciously I do it. 

I play lay games with people I care about and that makes me question myself a lot. Why play if I care thats i question I have been asking myself and the answers are so scattered. 

Intimate relationships and important friendships. Why play? I'll tell you some of it is tests making sure you aren't here to mess with me or here to stay. Other times I feel you did something questionable and now instead of talking about it I have to punish you, honestly sometimes i'm just bored and I wanna fuck with the person. Not okay. If you hurt me in anyway I don't keep grudges or walk away I don't have emotional recollection which makes it hard to remember why I was mad or if I was ever truly mad. So if I care I don't hold grudges but I will ensure you sting more than I did. Not for revenge but so you learn respect and understand how it feels. I sometimes play Mind games with people because it's a power trip to show them if I wanted I could have the upper hand and they can't do anything about it. Sometimes I need to prove they are not in charge and not that I am per se  but I could be if need be.

 

Tell me me about why you do it guys

 

 

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This is a good start. Now I'd like you to post on here some of the consequences you've paid for playing mind games with people you cared about. What did you lose? Did you gain anything of value from it? 

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You are evil. THAT IS WHY YOU DO IT. PLAIN AND SIMPLE.

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Yes Mistress. 

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This ought to be good.

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The consequences are simple: I lose meaningful and important people in my life. I wish I could say that it bothered me in the past the wah it should but I was always more than happy to let people walk out of my life. Now I am learning this mentality is not okay and that when I fuck up it's my fault and I need to do right by the oter person even if they still don't want anything to do with me. I can't say I've ever suffered professionally or academically because in those parts of my life sometimes it's okay to test water and push boundaries a bit of anything I am commended for it. Socially I suffer however I end up losing and my disordered mind won't allow me to see it like that. I don't gain fron messing with people I care about. The only thing I can see however is that it helps to weed out the ones the werent there to honestly be a friend either. Regardless I've lost so many important people.

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Here is the thing about hurt Pray : it is the result of a perception that travel through many filters and personal experiences, before it reaches the senses. Just because you hurt, doesn't mean the other person must be doing something bad. For me,  I ask the question "Is this person trying to hurt me on purpose?" Before I let my emotions take the wheel. But even the evidence I may find to support a "yes", might be based on only assumptions and paranoid delusions, so I just have to do the best I can to conclude based on whether the hurt is a threat to my mental stability and make it ultimately about that, and leave blame out. 

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Okay Mistress.

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You should read up on shittesting. Perhaps it will help you understand it.

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