Or he'll desensitize to pain a little further. Taming takes a little more than mere pain if they aren't weak willed.
"The issue is with me, if I ever truly want a legitimate relationship with her I need to get rid of the infatuation and deal with the factors that created and now prolong it. I will come to her when I am ready, once this is beaten. Until then I'm biding my time."
Easiest way to break a recurring obsession is to find something to replace it. Why not seek someone else, someone better?
For it to be 50/50, among other factors, thecrowonthefence would have to be a well established liar.
Are you calling her a liar whoameye?