Have you ever cheated on a SO/spouse or been in a relationship with someone who was married? Would you cheat?
Yes, I would and do cheat. I've never been faithful to a partner, EVER in my life once I was out of my teens. Yes I have also been in a relationship with married men. Married or not is irrelevant. I have always used sex to get what I want and that can take on many different forms.
Have you ever cheated with a friends SO/spouse? What was the end result?
No, I have never. I myself am not sure why but I never crossed this line to date. In all candor, if the opportunity arose with all the right ingredients coming together, I'm sure I would. I no longer care if it's with a friends SO/spouse or stranger. I don't feel the same about it today as I did 10 years ago.
What are your reasons for 'cheating' and how do you actually feel about it?
I cheat for numerous reasons. For manipulation purposes, in order to get what I want. Sometimes it can be simply b/c I am attracted to someone and want to get fucked by them. In years past I needed it for emotional reasons, to feel loved by someone. I equated sex and love as the same thing. I am married, I don't care about his feelings. I currently am in a situation where I do care about someone, I am in a relationship outside of my marriage and I have no 2nd thoughts about it.
Is it purely sexual or does it fill some other need? See above
Is it possible for humans to be in a monogamous relationship?
No, I don't believe it is. I think it's very easy and naive for younger people to believe it's possible. I don't believe humans are designed to be sexually attracted to one person their entire lives.
All the above being said, sex is only when I want it, on my terms. Otherwise, I don't want to be touched and have no interest in it.