So you're around 25 with 4 relationships all of them lasting over 6 months. with the exception of a 1 or two fuck buddies?
Not always, I've been with multiple women who knew I was sexually promiscuous, and instead of ending things with me, they agreed to be open. If you are firm about who you are and the things you want, then they will either accept you or move on. You'd be surprised by the number that accept you if properly conditioned...
What's so hard to believe about that? They were easy on the eyes and quite fun to be with, but they weren't models or anything unobtainable like that. Between my last and current relationship, the time that spanned between the two when I was single was a month.
I'm not exactly desirable, but those who are into me seem to like sticking around.
You're right. If you're up front from the beginning that you'll be seeing other people, she'll either accept it or leave. I thought Deborah's post implied that she was in a relationship. Or thought she was. In that case, it's a shit test. A good response would be "You really know what I want. Don't worry, I'll save some for you." Agree and amplify with a sarcastic disqualification.
I'm not exactly manly. Thin build, prefer being a sub in the bedroom, long hair, lack interest in most "manly" things, I enjoy things like ballet and dance...
Then beyond that, when people get to know a me beyond being polite, they have to deal with me constantly prying about their lives, my enjoying debate even if it requires my going into Devil's Advocate to measure the convictions behind their words, using the words of those I'm talking to against them to point out contradictions in their logic or in their former and current lines of thinking, 9/10 of the time overly critical or "thinks too much", I'm particular about how I keep my surroundings and nitpick small flaws constantly. It annoys some people a lot, but then there are those who enjoy being challenged if not see redeeming qualities, and they tend to be the ones who like sticking around.
A lot of women want a man who can be this buff prince charming who rides in on a magnificent stallion to "whisk them away from this horrible place", but that's just not me.
I am not in a relationship. And women can answer too.
I am just curious because I have met men who want a relationship, and believe it or not, not that many want casual sex. I also know people in open relationships. I also know people who want a variety. But then, why get in a relationship at all?
They say that people cheat for reasons other than sex. So if it isn't sex, what is it? I mean if you are good partners, why would you cheat?
I was just wondering if you were many that wanted more than one partner, if saying "go for it", would make it less desirable.
If you give someone the OK, then it isn't cheating.
