@ circe > "As long as possible...but not for ever.That makes it sad."
Sad for whom???
No offence but not really - although I'm sorry if you're hurting.
I don't know your story and don't want to make assumptions… but if you were in love with an SP you need to get fucking real.
It takes time for the heart to catch up with the head but don't mess with your own head. Information is power.
(Great fucking avatar btw: lol)
Dear Iammask pls keep posting good topics like this.
As an empath i also invest effort to talk in ppl own terms they are used to. This is necessary especially in politics or religion when ppl use totally different l anguage for concepts. Like translating and interpreting languages.
Just because you change languages to speak to someone doesnt mean it is fake. Same with emotions.
As for lying and manipulating, why waste energy on ppl who wont last.
Seems more effective to invest in true friends who support you knowing your strength and weaknesses and build honest relationscwhere you dont have to hide or put on shows.
Then you bring more ppl like that in your life who let you be yourself.
No need to play games when you are sorrounded by ppl who are past all that stuff.
I hope you find friends herecwho encourage you to be yourself without apology.
The best wayvto learn to function is to find mentors to check against when youre not sure.
When you build yourcsupportbsystem you wont need to play games.
Everyone in life needscthis, you just happen to be aware of your differences enough to ask.
Keep up the goodcwork!
I know this... Because of this I mostly break up my relationships. They become boring after a few months.
But I really like it, when my "girlfriends" try to hate me. One of their best sayings: "You emotion-cripple!" I had to laugh and she became more angry. That was fun!
I also can express emotions in a way, nearly everyone believes me. I've learned this.
With practice you can simulate.
With mastery you can emulate.
Emotions grow on you.
Plant a seed and see what comes out of it.
Exercise patience and focus.
Then choose what is a weed (thus discard accordingly), yet do not slacken your will to grow something in its spot.
Otherwise concentrate on what is worthy of further nurturing.
Gardening of the psyche 101.
One time, a coworker got me fired for convincing me that I made something up he didn't really say.
Had me convinced I dreamed it up. Scary how hypnotic the effect was, where I even questioned my memory.
And I wanted to believe I had heard it right, was defending myself or trying to. But he was more convincing.
Repetition is a dangerous thing. In my experience, people will repeat themselves when they want you to believe them, perhaps especially if they are lying about something. The more you hear it, the easier it becomes to believe you might have misheard something. I deal professionally with those who lie to get out of amazingly trivial fines, so I've seen a lot of people who repeat their story over and over and over, earnestly and as if they themselves believe it. But the more they parrot their own story, the more it sounds like a lie to me.
by emilynghiemOne time, a coworker got me fired for convincing me that I made something up he didn't really say.
Had me convinced I dreamed it up. Scary how hypnotic the effect was, where I even questioned my memory.
And I wanted to believe I had heard it right, was defending myself or trying to. But he was more convincing.