Valeo.
Hey,
Thanks for the post! I find the process of achieving trust interesting as well. As you say, it requires a lot of time. But I guess that also varies from person to person. I think everyone misjudges from time to time. I judge people even though I try hard not to. Some of it happens without me even knowing. I might convey it through how I talk. I also don't always know when someone needs me to listen, rather than give my opinion. But I guess I'm getting off tracks now.
About unconditional trust; I agree. Not crossing boundaries is the foundation of trust. I suppose.
No I do appreciate your post.
Anyway, I hope it won't come off as rude but it crosses a certain boundary if someone tries to force a reply from me. And so while I appreciate your post I don't want to feel obligated to reply. I want to do it because I feel like it. I hope you can appreciate that. The truth is I made a quick scroll-through of the posts and I didn't notice your reply at first.
Trust seems like something people definitely can't build without being trustworthy themselves. What do you think about situations where you are trustworthy but the other person is not? Or does not trust you?
I have to admit I have a problem with forgiving people, at times. I rarely get angry but if I do it usually lasts quite a long time. Sometimes I wonder how different everything would be if people forgave each other easily. I know this sounds childish, I'm just writing what goes through my mind right now.
The most interesting point you made in my opinion was past mistakes. Resolving issues of the past doesn't seem to come easily to people. Repeating past mistakes seems to be common, too. Even if people have sincerely regretted their mistakes. However, I'm not sure if it's always possible to fix everything. It seems to me like some people break off trust permanently once it has been broken. I wonder where the threshold is. I guess that depends on the person.
Anyway, thanks a lot for the replies.
No I do appreciate your post.
Anyway, I hope it won't come off as rude but it crosses a certain boundary if someone tries to force a reply from me. And so while I appreciate your post I don't want to feel obligated to reply. I want to do it because I feel like it. I hope you can appreciate that. The truth is I made a quick scroll-through of the posts and I didn't notice your reply at first.
Trust seems like something people definitely can't build without being trustworthy themselves. What do you think about situations where you are trustworthy but the other person is not? Or does not trust you?
I have to admit I have a problem with forgiving people, at times. I rarely get angry but if I do it usually lasts quite a long time. Sometimes I wonder how different everything would be if people forgave each other easily. I know this sounds childish, I'm just writing what goes through my mind right now.
The most interesting point you made in my opinion was past mistakes. Resolving issues of the past doesn't seem to come easily to people. Repeating past mistakes seems to be common, too. Even if people have sincerely regretted their mistakes. However, I'm not sure if it's always possible to fix everything. It seems to me like some people break off trust permanently once it has been broken. I wonder where the threshold is. I guess that depends on the person.
Anyway, thanks a lot for the replies.
Hi Legga, sorry that bit came at a time I was advised not to post on threads if I wasnt welcome. So it was intended as a courtesy to ask you, not meant as an imposition to reply. Thanks for taking time to follow up with in depth posts, you were the only one Ive seen able to accommodate Spatial Mind to share without censure of long thoughts. Hopefully the chemistry here is normalizing more and balancing different extremes in the process. Thanks!