yup, and so isn't that what communities are for? Especially since I reached this forum from a website that helps explain sociopaths and their behavior...
Dear AJF
Again don't let this guy divide the friends up. Stand together and hold the BULLY responsible for bullying behavior. Do not blame the victims. Do NOT "hold on" to negative reactions to this guy, cuz he is using that to weaken you.
That is part of the game.
Regardless what this guy would be classified as, the tactic of bullying and dividing allows him to target the weaker parties that will back down. So he dominates this way.
If he tried make someone look bad or feel bad, that is HIS problem, don't take on his garbage for him!
Don't let his ill will and negativity poison the relationships around you, or he'll have you all pointing fingers and projecting blame as part of his game.
It's like spreading germs to make everyone sick and weak with the same cold/flu.
Let him keep his negative germs/thoughts to HIMSELF and don't play that game.
STAY POSITIVE if that means staying away from him.
Concern yourself with making sure you don't harbor negative thoughts/fears in your mind but only positive energy.
(If you want to go back later and understand this guy, fine, but NOT while he is a threat to your direct space.
Just stay away, keep your distance, you can figure out the rest later!)
Dear Gia: the give and take goes both ways. You may be more "transparent" but others on here may not be either.
If this person only gives so much information, that's all they'll get.
And maybe that's all they need.
[PS I tend to work better with more transparency also. I agree the process is mutual. Not everyone is totally open.]
Dear sweet, hot AJ, ;)
I'm so fucking bored, I can't even play this game with you, so I'm gonna try to help instead...
You say he's been targeting you for four months now. Big deal. You're not his only target. He's got several others on the go. Guaranteed.
Everyone is a narcissist at some level. Manipulators know this and appeal to the ego to gain advantage. He keeps contacting you. You keep "cutting him off" (whatever that means) but he keeps coming back -- kinda like he's obsessed. You think he wants in your pants SOOO bad.
Your ego is stoked right now and you feel powerful, desired. It feels like you have control over this guy.
You're so flattered. You just can't let it go. He knows you feel this way. He's making you feel this way. This is how the game goes. LOL
For some reason (who knows why) he didn't like you from the start. He assumed you were a slut for the taking and bragged to your friends that he would USE you very soon. Someone interrupted his plan. Now he has a bigger point to prove.
Don't just cut him off. Tell him you're now dating Richard Parker and RP has a sick temper so he should back the fuck off. lol
Actually do what you want but understand he's reeling you in like a fish.