by anastacia
Does he run a non-profit? If he runs his own company but doesn't draw salary from it do you find him to have a weak work effort due to lack of funds? Just curious.
How is he valuable to you? Because of the investment you've already put into him? Also, I'm surprised you've kept him for two years if it's not a genuine love.
Hi Anastacia. No, he runs a profitable clothing company - www.rupertandbuckley.com. It's due to launch its Autumn/Winter collection in a few days. I'm not sure what I make of his weak work effort... he is more than capable of getting a job. He is intelligent, attractive, and obviously has some form of work ethic otherwise he would not have started the company and carried on with it.
Partly because of the investment I've already put into him -- but in the worst case scenario, I can bankrupt him and move on. That would ruin his future career path (he wants to be a barrister. You can't be a barrister and bankrupt). Partly because he doesn't care that I'm a sociopath (aka he doesn't view me as some awful monster) and I can be myself around him. That's rare in this world.
I do feel some sort of genuine liking for him -- and I've told him this. He has admitted to liking me too.
by emilynghiem
Dear TheWizard: If you are 20 and have wealth, is it sustainable or an inheritance? I would advise you to invest in real estate so you create a sustainable base, but only with investors who won't use you to fund a learning curve and pay for mistakes. The group started in TX that teaches people/groups to buy out apartment complexes and retire millionaires in 5-10 years is at http://www.luinc.com Donald Trump's group has complaints against it for taking people's money and not mentoring them to invest. The Lifestyles group has no complaints against it, and their members have won national awards for apt management every year consecutively.
I would use your time/energy to focus on getting all your ducks in a row. The people like your boyfriend you need in your life will follow from there.
If you love each other, it should be unconditionally, what you would enjoy REGARDLESS of the money or company or this or that. Focus on love for lovesake and the rest will be clear. If you start investing in longterm payoffs, and your boyfriend doesn't join you, then work with people who will.
Everyone will need to learn how to become financially independent, so surround yourself with people of the "abundance mentality" not the scarcity mentality.
If you and he really love each other, that won't go away. Just push to make your life better and better and that will pressure him to meet you at your level.
Thank you for the advice, Emily. My wealth was originally an inheritance but it's since turned into sustainable wealth through other investments. I'll look into this group. I want him to join me at my level, I don't want to descend to his.
I'll push him to ascend.