There was endless tension between my parents my whole life, even watching them silently cross paths was nerve wracking so by 18 years old we were glad when they divorced.
There was endless tension between my parents my whole life, even watching them silently cross paths was nerve wracking so by 18 years old we were glad when they divorced.
Divorce is a blessing in some families
Media mostly, attachment to the two beings that raised them as a child and a disruption in their normal routine. If you've sold the idea that a fat man dressed in red come days before the end of the year to deliver presents to children then the idea that your mother and father are meant to be together 'forever' isn't too hard to sell to a child as well. Not all kids react negatively to divorced tho and I'd ask for age range in what you mean by kids
I dunno, disconnecting someone from a formative role model and endorsing division, while healthier for the adults in question, and perhaps harm reduction in the long run for the entire family, is bound to have an affect on kids over more than just "media mostly".
But yeah, asking the age range for what is and isn't a kid's kind of important. Even being 12 years old is leagues apart from being 7.Most movies (drawing back from when I was a child) had an emphasis on parents being together, or one of them dying but not leaving of their own will. As whimsical as this is most kids draw on that as sources of knowledge. Commercials that featured parental figures were often in pairs, still even then the things that did featured divorced parents had evil step moms/dads, poor living conditions, etc.
How do you figure someone without so much media indoctrination might respond to it?
The younger parents of today aren't really embarrassed to divorced and are somewhat in a better space to explain to kids it's not the end of the world.
I'd agree it's a better space for explaining to the following generation, but kids of divorce tend to have issues with commitment. Those who didn't find healthier (or willfully ignorant) ways of handling it have the room to fixate on what they believe "the world" is based on modeling off of their parents (again not saying a terrible marriage ought to stay together, but that's still more about overall harm reduction as opposed to full blown harm prevention). Even outside of the range of fixation... their main example for relationships tends to heavily weigh on how their parents handled each other.
In less words, it's not unusual to see the children of divorce find more excuses to remain single, if not over why they are as a form of externalizing the issues.
I expect things to be better for the people after us, as they'll be the ones who grew up seeing who we are.
I understand what you mean but it's also about the outside information forming their ideas of what is normal or routine that would also have them be affected as well as the loss of a beloved caretaker
I think this is phasing out as well, somewhat, over people largely moving from a basic cable lifestyle towards more of an internet based one. People used to get hounded on for missing last night's episode of Family Guy to the point that I saw people who weren't fans keeping up with it, while now everyone's watching whatever they want at their own speeds.
Nowadays you can find resources that will tell you exactly what you want to hear, and it's showing more and more as we disconnect from the Groupthink resources we used to rely on to keep groups in line.
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There was endless tension between my parents my whole life, even watching them silently cross paths was nerve wracking so by 18 years old we were glad when they divorced.
This somewhat explains some of your corporal punishment themed mindset.
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I've thought about raising a kid. Making him a better version of me. I wouldn't want his mom to be around him though, as I wouldn't be able to fully control the influence she'd have on him. I wonder what kind of repercussions he would have from not having a mom at home. I suppose It'd likely make him a little more cold just by default, lacking a woman's warm touch.
I suppose my reasons are selfish. I want to be able to see the closest thing to myself live and be. Like watching myself in third person. I'd want it to be a boy of course, and would likely turn down a girl, at least, for my first child. I consider myself a pretty good care taker. I see it sort of as an experiment; any little tweak in the kid's environment and he might turn out differently. I think it's very very interesting, what makes people grow up to be who they are. Of course it's part genetic, but environment plays an equally important role here.
I'm still deciding what I would want my kid to grow up to be/do. Of course, I would have that planned before I even have him. I need a plan. A developmental trajectory. I only wish they could grow up quicker, because it's quite a big investment. He would be my special project. What should be his end goal?
Heck. I could even turn him into my slave if I wanted to. Make the kid do whatever I wanted to, when I wanted it to be done. But, I lean more towards wanting him to be successful in whichever area I choose or he chooses, if I like his dreams and aspirations.
If I were to have a female, I'd most likely groom her to be my sex slave and be my maid/do housework. I think that would be my impulse, but I don't want my last name to be an used submissive tramp. I would hold my urge to fuck her, most likely. Because she is the closest thing to me genetically, I would really love to smash. I would enjoy to be with somebody else like me.
Despite those thoughts, I think I would be a great dad. I have father protective qualities. I'm caring for those under my lead, as part of my narcissistic extension. But, I'm also incredibly methodical and have quite the self-control. I would never hit my kids in anger, nor say something I didn't mean to say. I'm always fully conscious of what I do and if I say/do something it's because I decided it to be the best course of action. I would like for my child to be smarter than me, and I'm conflicted on whether I want my child to be normal and healthy or a little more like me. Functionally, of course. Obviously due to genetics he/she will be similar to me regardless. I'm specifically talking about that pesky environment.
Lastly, I wouldn't have a child with anyone having any hints of serious mental problems. No way.
If I were to have a female, I'd most likely groom her to be my sex slave and be my maid/do housework. I think that would be my impulse, but I don't want my last name to be an used submissive tramp. I would hold my urge to fuck her, most likely. Because she is the closest thing to me genetically, I would really love to smash. I would enjoy to be with somebody else like me.
Despite those thoughts, I think I would be a great dad.
Yeah, I don't know man. Your intentions seem a bit off.
There was endless tension between my parents my whole life, even watching them silently cross paths was nerve wracking so by 18 years old we were glad when they divorced.
This somewhat explains some of your corporal punishment themed mindset.
There you go wandering into foolery again.
I didn't care when I was a kid, but it happened when I was really young. Maybe 4 or 5. If it affected me at all, it did something in a way that wasn't a clear emotion. I doubt I'm the only one who's felt like that.
I hate ur profile pic so much lol it’s so annoying
but yeah I think its more about who the parents are and the way they act more so than if they divorced or not