are your parents divorced? I wonder then if I was a more selfish child than most. do you think being less empathetic makes you more selfish? or vice versa? or neither? hmmmm
and yes that is a nice word with a suitable meaning, I think I've heard it before but it's one of those words you kinda know and can sorta use without actually knowing the meaning. I wonder if people have that experience in lauguanges that aren't their first, probably not. interesting,.
No they're not. I don't exactly get how I could be non-selfish, so I'd say yes, definitely makes you more selfish.
They do, it works for me with English at least.
is english not your first language?
When my parents separated, it had much effect on me. I was glad, because my dad leaving meant I had freedom. I had known he was cheating, so I was waiting for the day he'd dip. I was 16 when he did, and soon after, my behavior worsened and peaked around 17-18, then I started getting more chilled out. In that time I had very low tolerance for frustration, and I'd take it out on people physically. When my mother realized I was out of control, she tried to control me, and that was a big reason for my lashing out. There was a lot of anger at that time.
I had very late onset conduct disorder, and that's probably why I'm a mild case. I'm not particularly ruthless or callous, but I am the most indifferent person I've ever met
You'd probably have to be attached to your parents to some degree to care about the divorce.
I've seen some kids respond to divorce by just fugue-stating through it, not thinking about their immediate reality to an unhealthy degree to try to get past it during the years you're supposed to be figuring out how living life works. It has a way of disconnecting some from bonding or trusting people as much from having the scars of said divorce echo, many to the point of fearing a future marriage for themselves as if it were to become the same problems. There's even some who carry the antiquated idea of "Never divorce" simply over their own damages. Much of what comes from how parents handle one another in front of their kid is modeled down the line unconsciously, much like what we see with concepts like spankings.
The formative portion of our lives is pretty integral. If it happens late enough in their lives meanwhile, some kids enjoy having two Christmas times and two birthday celebrations, but they still seem a little colder about the human experience.
Media mostly, attachment to the two beings that raised them as a child and a disruption in their normal routine. If you've sold the idea that a fat man dressed in red come days before the end of the year to deliver presents to children then the idea that your mother and father are meant to be together 'forever' isn't too hard to sell to a child as well. Not all kids react negatively to divorced tho and I'd ask for age range in what you mean by kids
Media mostly, attachment to the two beings that raised them as a child and a disruption in their normal routine. If you've sold the idea that a fat man dressed in red come days before the end of the year to deliver presents to children then the idea that your mother and father are meant to be together 'forever' isn't too hard to sell to a child as well. Not all kids react negatively to divorced tho and I'd ask for age range in what you mean by kids
I dunno, disconnecting someone from a formative role model and endorsing division, while healthier for the adults in question, and perhaps harm reduction in the long run for the entire family, is bound to have an affect on kids over more than just "media mostly".
But yeah, asking the age range for what is and isn't a kid's kind of important. Even being 12 years old is leagues apart from being 7.
Media mostly, attachment to the two beings that raised them as a child and a disruption in their normal routine. If you've sold the idea that a fat man dressed in red come days before the end of the year to deliver presents to children then the idea that your mother and father are meant to be together 'forever' isn't too hard to sell to a child as well. Not all kids react negatively to divorced tho and I'd ask for age range in what you mean by kids
I dunno, disconnecting someone from a formative role model and endorsing division, while healthier for the adults in question, and perhaps harm reduction in the long run for the entire family, is bound to have an affect on kids over more than just "media mostly".
But yeah, asking the age range for what is and isn't a kid's kind of important. Even being 12 years old is leagues apart from being 7.
Most movies (drawing back from when I was a child) had an emphasis on parents being together, or one of them dying but not leaving of their own will. As whimsical as this is most kids draw on that as sources of knowledge. Commercials that featured parental figures were often in pairs, still even then the things that did featured divorced parents had evil step moms/dads, poor living conditions, etc.
The younger parents of today aren't really embarrassed to divorced and are somewhat in a better space to explain to kids it's not the end of the world. I understand what you mean but it's also about the outside information forming their ideas of what is normal or routine that would also have them be affected as well as the loss of a beloved caretaker
