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you guys like to make jokes about me but 

 

it makes me forget the validity in the things that happened to me and how severe they were, and the impact they can have on a person. 

 

because of the things that have happened in my life were so traumatic and impossible for me to cope with, my brain actually tends to forget them altogether, deleting them from my conscious mind. 

 

this can happen for a period of years, weeks months, or a few days. a few hours. 

 

but sometimes I can reminded by triggers. 

 

Triggers exist everywhere, and if I tried to make a list of them it would never end. Because I've had so *many* things happen to me that were traumatic and my brain didn't quite process properly or readily, it's led me to being triggered in a lot of different ways. Alos because my trauma was pretty much life long. 

 

But some reminders exist in the form of something I can share without having to say anything, and because I don't feel ready to talk about all of it yet, and often, can't- for now this is the main outlet I have for sharing with people, things that I went through or, things that I relate to on some level.. things that shed light for you on the gravity of things I went through and, how much impact that has on a human being- to help people grasp what its like to be in these situations. 

 

and no, this isn't me complaining, my main goal here (the one that you should be concerned with), is to show the psychological and emotional effects of specific types of prolonged trauma. 

 

in my time in psychiatric hospitals, I was only able to relate to the people diagnosed with ptsd. and similarly, in the regular world as well, I'm not able to relate to a lot of people unless they have been through something traumatic themselves oddly enough. so, these videos, the people in these videos, the stories behind them, what they're going through, what they're saying. these, are things that I relate to on a deep level- and I don't feel that connection and relation to other people, in that same way on a regular basis. so it's really refreshing, honestly for me to see. and, relieves some of the tension and isolation you feel regarding just, having ptsd. 

 

 

The way the main character behaves in this movie after she is rescued is very similar to what I went through as I was climbing out of my own trauma in the years after it had sort of stopped. And the movie portrayed it very realistically, which, shows those closest to her not really understanding, why she's acting the way she's acting or what's going on with her.

 

last edit on 5/22/2019 1:29:10 AM
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While people like me can get wrapped into your narratives, what makes you think others not only care, but should care? 

You're just one person, just like the rest of us. 

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I struggle to grasp my own reality, but writing about it helps it feel more real. I forget, but if I leave it here, now I know I won't forget. Sometimes I think to myself, gosh why am I struggling so much with just normal day to day things? Why do I have sexual issues? Why do I have identity issues? Why am I incredibly immature and mentally unstable, and why are my thoughts so weird? Oh yeah that's right, I forgot. Nothing about my up bringing was normal but it *is* perfectly normal to be the way I am as a result, of those experiences and it's something I can work through best by admitting and talking about all of it! It helps me feel so much better. It does a lot of things for me. There are a lot of reasons I do it. Like I said, there are a lot of prerogatives and goals, and reasons I have for writing about things that are personal I suppose. 

 

The one you should be concerned with is that it does serve to shed light on a subject that, people may or may not yet fully understand. 

 

I never said everyone should be interested, it's just for those who are. Not forcing anyone to click anything, or to read it. Pure choice. 

 

But yeah, there are personal reasons why I write, and that's a whole conversation in and of itself.

last edit on 5/22/2019 2:04:46 AM
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The writing is fine, but your narrative implies that people aren't supposed to be taking that approach with you, and that further narration will maybe have them see what's "really" going on with you instead of furthering the "Shut Up Meg" meme they've appropriated towards you. 

Why would many of them care beyond trying to find more ammo to use against you? The word "trauma" is blood in the water. 

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last edit on 5/22/2019 2:13:29 AM
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I don't orient my behavior around what's socially accepted a lot of the time. And if I can find one person who understands, and then be judged by everyone else. It's better to have that than to be totally alone. 

last edit on 5/22/2019 2:08:54 AM
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Blanc said: 

I don't orient my behavior around what's socially accepted a lot of the time. And if I can find one person who understands, and then be judged by a bunch of people. It's better to have that than to be totally alone. 

To be honest, you got my attention more once we actually had a dialogue going instead of pure self-narration (I did still read some of your past stuff but it was a lot of "maybe later"s). You do have a lot of interesting and apt things to say and point out, but if you're not participating within others narratives as well then they're liable to ignore yours as much as you'd ignore theirs. 

Only discussing yourself is an easy way to perpetuate a cycle, while visiting other people's perspectives and commenting on them can allow for more adaptation from following the path towards a mutual voice. It's easy to get lost when you're the main, if not only, voice you listen to. 

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last edit on 5/22/2019 2:12:21 AM
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When you're better, you'll remind yourself that you're all fucked up, then you'll believe it, then you'll loop and talk about how something terrible happened to you as the decades pass by.

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When you're better, you'll remind yourself that you're all fucked up, then you'll believe it, then you'll loop and talk about how something terrible happened to you as the decades pass by.

Wouldn't that mean she isn't better? 

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When you're better, you'll remind yourself that you're all fucked up, then you'll believe it, then you'll loop and talk about how something terrible happened to you as the decades pass by.

Wouldn't that mean she isn't better? 

 It comes to a point where she does it to herself.

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do you really expect people to watch this movie and extend that emotional depth towards you so you're perceived as hurt and deep and cool by everyone else 

that is incredibly childish 

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