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I may be misunderstanding. I do know I'm better than other people in specific areas, but I don't believe anyone is more "worthy" or more "deserving" of anything. It's all up for grabs, who gets it, has it, and "deserves" it.

Turncoat said: 

Kestrel said: 

I think saying they can't help themselves is dangerous

I'd argue it's just deterministic themes with in lieu of an ego that tries to delusionally tell us we're important enough to be the ones in control. When I think I am in control of my destiny, it becomes easy to project that they must be too, and that all they did were terribly purposeful choices. 

After ripping that bandage off of myself, it became easier to see the autopilots of others. 

 Saying they can't help themselves implies and fosters a condescending pity. I believe we have a moderate amount of steering when it comes to our ego affecting our choices and I also believe in holding myself/others accountable for their actions. All acts are purposeful asides like your final destination flukes

Kestrel said: 

Turncoat said: 

Kestrel said: 

I think saying they can't help themselves is dangerous

I'd argue it's just deterministic themes with in lieu of an ego that tries to delusionally tell us we're important enough to be the ones in control. When I think I am in control of my destiny, it becomes easy to project that they must be too, and that all they did were terribly purposeful choices. 

After ripping that bandage off of myself, it became easier to see the autopilots of others. 

 Saying they can't help themselves implies and fosters a condescending pity.

 No, it's understanding of life's processes, and I literally ranted at length about how I'm no better. 

I believe we have a moderate amount of steering when it comes to our ego affecting our choices and I also believe in holding myself/others accountable for their actions.

Exactly, as I said to Xadem, if it's not hurting people then it's harmless, but that ego expression is inevitable and a lack of it is unhealthy. 

All acts are purposeful asides like your final destination flukes

"Purposeful" is a myth to me. 

You can feel better than others and still have the drive to improve in certain areas, in fact, my confidence in that regard is based on me knowing i can eventually beat anyone in whatever I put my mind on because I'm a very quick learner and focus on the small details. I eventually beat all.

This whole need to remove yourself from ego is a bunch of bs. And it's interesting that it comes from the 2 most boring members.

Slay said: 

You can feel better than others and still have the drive to improve in certain areas, in fact, my confidence in that regard is based on me knowing i can eventually beat anyone in whatever I put my mind on because I'm a very quick learner and focus on the small details. I eventually beat all.

This only works as far as your ability to objectively observe your own talents. 

This ideology in the hands of a "Know-It-All" means an entirely different outcome. 

This whole need to remove yourself from ego is a bunch of bs. And it's interesting that it comes from the 2 most boring members.

It's what some people need, and is ultimately about seeking a balance within themselves. 

If they are overemotional, they want it to stop, and if they can't feel they want to experience something real. 

I do agree with you personally though about it being bs, and I'd raise that to saying it's outright mentally unhealthy to practice in excess. Seriously, what's the point of life if you aren't going to feel anything? 

Turncoat said: 

Kestrel said: 

Turncoat said: 

Kestrel said: 

I think saying they can't help themselves is dangerous

I'd argue it's just deterministic themes with in lieu of an ego that tries to delusionally tell us we're important enough to be the ones in control. When I think I am in control of my destiny, it becomes easy to project that they must be too, and that all they did were terribly purposeful choices. 

After ripping that bandage off of myself, it became easier to see the autopilots of others. 

 Saying they can't help themselves implies and fosters a condescending pity.

 No, it's understanding of life's processes, and I literally ranted at length about how I'm no better. 

I know what you meant, but it's still a dangerous concept to indulge in. I don't think I'm better than letting thoughts like that subtly make me condescending overtime I guess.

I believe we have a moderate amount of steering when it comes to our ego affecting our choices and I also believe in holding myself/others accountable for their actions.

Exactly, as I said to Xadem, if it's not hurting people then it's harmless, but that ego expression is inevitable and a lack of it is unhealthy. 

All acts are purposeful asides like your final destination flukes

"Purposeful" is a myth to me. 

 to both points understandable perspective

Kestrel said: 

Turncoat said: 

Kestrel said: 

Turncoat said: 

Kestrel said: 

I think saying they can't help themselves is dangerous

I'd argue it's just deterministic themes with in lieu of an ego that tries to delusionally tell us we're important enough to be the ones in control. When I think I am in control of my destiny, it becomes easy to project that they must be too, and that all they did were terribly purposeful choices. 

After ripping that bandage off of myself, it became easier to see the autopilots of others. 

 Saying they can't help themselves implies and fosters a condescending pity.

 No, it's understanding of life's processes, and I literally ranted at length about how I'm no better. 

I know what you meant, but it's still a dangerous concept to indulge in. I don't think I'm better than letting thoughts like that subtly make me condescending overtime I guess.

It's when I don't think like that that I feel more entitled to be honest. Everything being automatic puts us all on an even playing field, while "choice" means I can blame them for "picking wrong". 

Kestrel said: 

Not needing to be above people or worrying about it. It's a basic bitch trait and a hard thing to reduce down to a subconscious level

 I'm glad my last injury gave me self-awareness, this quote lets me know how much of a gift it is.

Results do.

I ignore the feeling though until I see the other party's results. And I do not indulge in the feeling, depending on how much I respect the other person.
Also, the type of results matter, money, for example, is something I appreciate, but it is not something I see as a result. It is just a means to the result. Context is important.

I think it's not just good to want to be better than others, but it is very important.
Competition is self-improvement.

What matters is, how much do you care, if you lose. Will you break down and cry? Or try harder? Or maybe both, that works too, as long as you try again and again, and again, and again. And do not take it personally, unless it really is.

Being on an airplane