Sounds like an asshole. You must have loved him to have three kids.
Emotionally attacks. Severe rejection abandonment not providing enough money for food and clothes. He partied on $3000 to $6000 a month and I got $500 a month for food and clothes. He made everything a fight. I worked and I saved us $4000 month in Med insurance cost because of his pre conditions. He refused to even pay for day care. He was so abusive in all ways but physical. When our child was 18 he pretended to be sexually attacked to her because he was mad I found out about his affair with our neighbor. Is this kind of behavior acceptable or is he a low class sociopath
This sounds more like negligence and a life of vices than emotional attacks.
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No, sociopaths don't have a "sociopath's code" like a vampire clan or Dexter or some shit. One sociopath could enjoy doing that, another wouldn't feel two ways about it, another would find it distasteful for whatever reason. ASPD is a personality disorder; you must first be a person to have it. And people are individuals by nature.
I have questions though. He might not have ASPD unless you meant he has already been diagnosed. He chased you for years, and you simply weren't interested until relatively recently? How did his relationship with women appear before you finally let him enter your orbit? Lastly, what good does answering that question do you? If we all said yes, would you feel bad for him and let him do what he does?
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He’s a sociopath. I was a very beautiful woman in my younger years. I was a very sensual and very sexual woman. He traveled all of the time. He refused to touch me as my punishment for conceiving a child he said (but lied) that he wanted. He cheated on me the entire time he traveled. Punishment. He would ask me to join him out of town so he capitalized off of my beauty to get a woman. He wanted the woman he had set his sights on to think, what does he have to have her. If he wanted to break up with his girlfriend, he would take me, I’m with my wife again. If a woman he still wanted dumped him he would used me to try to make her jealous. This is now all hindsight because I didn’t have the ability to comprehend this man could be like this
He made on an average $200,000. I saved us from spending every year $72,000 with my job and benefits. He stole $72,000 a year. I was so overly inundated with my job home kids their school work and sports I didn’t have the time to check his business books until 19 years into the marriage. He made our son feel stupid and he put him down all of the time. He pushed him away and rejected him because he knew his emotional abuse would affect the child’s self worth self esteem and all etc. he did the same to his daughter and my daughter. He withheld enough money from us I was always stressed out of to provide enough food and clothes for the kids. He knew but every time I would try to talk to him he created these insane fights! The 1.5 days he was home were hell. The kids didn’t want him home. He was shred and he played my inside purity unworldliness and stupidities.
No he usually does not show emotions. He is diagnosed as a sociopath. The weird thing I noticed is that he never chuckles. He has this very bland short haha laugh, that seems to sound force. It’s like he laughs on clue. The kids called him out once not realizing what they were saying. They said look at dad. He is trying to act like he is humble but he doesn’t know that expression. Yes he is very self absorbed. His happiness is of the utmost importance to him. He will steal fun from kids to give him more money to have fun on. He will only sacrifice if he gets a return. He is very self serving. He always has an ulterior motive. He is very greedy. He is a sex addict and he has to be careful with alcohol. He is more concern with his reputation. He fears exposure. He is a pathological liar. His whole life has been a lie, on top of him lying. He white washes the bad he gets caught doing. He lies to himself to make himself look better. He does not have any close friends. The 1 friend he has he has lied to him about whom he is. He is a loner. But he has to have a woman in bed. He is now pretending to be a Christian because he blew his own reputation. He has had many false personas over the year. He is very boring unless he is either trying to impress a woman or to impress other men. Why am I with him? He has financially tied my hands. He has stolen our money and he has hid it. I know his plan is to retire in 3 years and to up and disappear. with our money. I utterly worked my ass off. He will leave me with only SS. He has done so much I’m at the point I am now.
