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Instrument said: 

Turncoat said: 

I'm not asking for your opinions on the topic as a whole, more so I'm asking who has or hasn't been and to otherwise elaborate on how they believe it's impacted their own lives. 

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I was not struck as a child, and I largely believe that's how I've opted to use words instead of violence to accomplish things. My folks still enforced house rules and made me follow what I needed to for school and stuff, but they were able to accomplish all of this by talking to me like an adult over all subjects that were an issue. 

By allowing it to be an open discussion, instead of doing something "because they told me to" I did as they wished "because it makes sense". They had the time and patience to rationalize it all to me, and a lot of my advantages in patience and the like I'd solely put on their shoulders. 

 i dont know man, my last resort to dealing with a very troublesome child would be spanking

 

i was spanked when i was a kid so was my older brother when we were on a car trip mostly i remember. its mostly embarrassing and not painful for you when you are a kid. you're not getting hit very hard..

 why am i not surprised you were spanked lmao

Turncoat said: 

I'm not asking for your opinions on the topic as a whole, more so I'm asking who has or hasn't been and to otherwise elaborate on how they believe it's impacted their own lives. 

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I was not struck as a child, and I largely believe that's how I've opted to use words instead of violence to accomplish things. My folks still enforced house rules and made me follow what I needed to for school and stuff, but they were able to accomplish all of this by talking to me like an adult over all subjects that were an issue. 

By allowing it to be an open discussion, instead of doing something "because they told me to" I did as they wished "because it makes sense". They had the time and patience to rationalize it all to me, and a lot of my advantages in patience and the like I'd solely put on their shoulders. 

 Less spanked and more physically abused, but yeah. Parents with issues, usual story, not quite Dickensian but definitely not white-picket suburban utopia.

I think it conferred one or two advantages and many more disadvantages. Of the former, I'd say tested resilience and perspective. Of the latter... Probably contributed to a sense of distrust and a hair-trigger which caused some issues in adolescence.

Ultimately though, I've met people from very diverse upbringings who end up roughly in the same position. I'm a bigger believer in self-determination rather than predetermination, but I do accept that the cycle of poverty and the effects if systemic racism have a pretty major influence.

natasha87 said: 

Instrument said: 

Turncoat said: 

I'm not asking for your opinions on the topic as a whole, more so I'm asking who has or hasn't been and to otherwise elaborate on how they believe it's impacted their own lives. 

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I was not struck as a child, and I largely believe that's how I've opted to use words instead of violence to accomplish things. My folks still enforced house rules and made me follow what I needed to for school and stuff, but they were able to accomplish all of this by talking to me like an adult over all subjects that were an issue. 

By allowing it to be an open discussion, instead of doing something "because they told me to" I did as they wished "because it makes sense". They had the time and patience to rationalize it all to me, and a lot of my advantages in patience and the like I'd solely put on their shoulders. 

 i dont know man, my last resort to dealing with a very troublesome child would be spanking

 

i was spanked when i was a kid so was my older brother when we were on a car trip mostly i remember. its mostly embarrassing and not painful for you when you are a kid. you're not getting hit very hard..

 why am i not surprised you were spanked lmao

thats how sociopath deal with kids easily i suppose. especially when they get way many more children than they should

i have 3 brothers who are 7-11 years older than me. i wonder if they were spanked too. my 2 year older than me brother was

if it is dealing with a child one on one or maybe 2 parents with 2 children and they have to resort to spanking they are probably dumbasses...

how do you think you turned out?