Direct? Thats good to know. You would like my home then. My grandfather is the most direct person in the world. It's frankly amazing he's still alive.
I think what you're missing is 5 difficult tasks that a friend needs to do for you in order to be a friend or otherwise they have too low a standard for friendship. And to be a good friend, they need to do 50 things. Etcetc. Im too used to people wanting something from me that I find it offputting when someone is too friendly toward me when I feel I haven't yet earned it.
I have the same problem as Friedrich. I'm taught to be nice, but I feel empty or at most curious about people's problems. There's a strong societal conditioning in Germany toward moral rifhteousness, which however doesn't speak to the soul. No wonder Germans suffer from an existential crisis.
It wasnt my intent btw to say autists are weak. I think autists in many way are more interesting as people than the masses.
Ps. I agree hot dogs can result in pretty heated debates. Fuck those hot dogs where they dont give you mayo. If my wife was eating those I'd probably divorce her.