You owning your own space is a pretty big deal.
I do wonder if you ever see autism as isolating. I am curious if you pay attention to people treating you differently due to autism, and in particular if they are nicer to you, and if that bothers you.
More often than not I am treated in a mean way, or a dismissive way, and I don't always notice. When I am treated with kindness I always notice because I can see the smile and I find smiles to be pretty and they excite me. However, the smile can be manipulative or fake. I can see it more now after a lot of practice but when I was younger I never understood. I am not depressed though because my husband is also autistic and him and I are together for life, and I think my best friend might have autism as well. I have been treated with a lot more kindness by my community ever since I started singing/street performing as my job. And I make good money.
Personally, I tend to be nice towards people who I perceive as significantly emotionally or physically weaker than me, which is a pretty big bucket of people. But it feels exhausting, because I feel like it's a one-way street. There's rarely value I derive from helping those who are weak, but I do it out of a sense of obligation, whilst being careful enough to keep my distance not to burden myself too much. I wonder if I'm doing more harm than good because people mistakenly think that I am their friend when I am not. It makes me feel burdened. It's a shame that I just cant communicate at thr right level.
with me you just have to be direct, neither nicer nor kinder. I don't know about other people but I just want honesty and guidance for me for how you are feeling and why as long as it comes from a genuine place, even if to others it might seem rude.
However, just because a person is weaker to you in one way, doesn't mean they are weak in every way. People are usually like Pokemon, we have different stats in different areas of where we are weak, strong, or in the middle. Autistic people usually have their stats maxed out in one or two places making it hard to have food stats anywhere else. For example with my singing I cat simply put a straw hat in front of my on the ground and make over 100$ on a really good day such as cruise ship day or at a festival.
I'm not the only one. It's usually a hot chick who is nice to someone way out of their league, and then the guy gets hurt because he was expecting poontah. The whole relationship game makes it clear that being am asshole is better than being nice. But some people can't handle it. How frustrating. Genuine friendship is difficult when people are thin skinned
Being autistic isn't always thin skinned. Things that would offend others for example don't offend us as long as we understand you are being genuine and that's the way you really feel. People misunderstand us and think we are self centered but we lack in cognitive empathy we excel emotionally, making good friends once youa start from scratch with what you know about understanding people when you work with us, because it's actually a true way street and if we want to understand you we have to work hard and communicate to do so more than others would, making your friendship valuable us because it was difficult to obtain.
None of you all are honest or genuine. Or at least I hope you are not. The alternative is too painful to accept.
Not really sure what the point of this rant was.
Ps. Yes I am Legga. I dont really like that AppleGenius name. It sounds ridiculous.
I was diagnosed with a form of autism called pervasive developmental disorder at the age of two. I also married br, a member here. And though we have had stupid arguments over shit like hot dogs, he has never called me out as a "liar" here which he would have by now if he was after five years of him getting mad. Even when lying that I am lying would have benefitted him to do so.
https://youtube.com/shorts/H5A7cCverZs?si=S4R_WRRmdQMPPTC2