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shamanqueen said: 

Turncoat said: 

shamanqueen said: 

It is more that I am saying that I do not want to be manipulated into a relationship where I am going to be cheated on and disrespected

Who's doing that right now? 

 

no one,  I am trying to make decisions on what type of person that I would want to partner with in the future if I do ever partner with anyone in the future

 

and I am aware of my past history and what type of person that I had previously been drawn to

 

 

and I am pretty closed off to possible relationships right now,  because I am healing my heart

shamanqueen said: 

shamanqueen said: 

Turncoat said: 

Who's doing that right now? 

 

no one,  I am trying to make decisions on what type of person that I would want to partner with in the future if I do ever partner with anyone in the future

 

and I am aware of my past history and what type of person that I had previously been drawn to

 

and I am pretty closed off to possible relationships right now,  because I am healing my heart

Yet you're still thinking about the kind of person you'd want? 

Turncoat said: 

shamanqueen said: 

Turncoat said: 

Who's doing that right now? 

no one,  I am trying to make decisions on what type of person that I would want to partner with in the future if I do ever partner with anyone in the future

So sort of like building an archetype? 

I feel like I couldn't really predict who comes next beyond maybe steering clear of some warning signs, people are very dissimilar. 

in my reality what is drawn to me are people that resonate with my present ability to give and receive love-  if I am still wounded I will attract someone wounded to help me work through it  but once I am healed from those wounds am I still going to attract a wounded partner because I am a healer ?  I would think that instead I should attract a healthy partner and possibly not settle for less  I mean that seems healthy,  right ?

Turncoat said: 

shamanqueen said: 

shamanqueen said: 

 

no one,  I am trying to make decisions on what type of person that I would want to partner with in the future if I do ever partner with anyone in the future

 

and I am aware of my past history and what type of person that I had previously been drawn to

 

and I am pretty closed off to possible relationships right now,  because I am healing my heart

Yet you're still thinking about the kind of person you'd want? 

yes

shamanqueen said: 

in my reality what is drawn to me are people that resonate with my present ability to give and receive love- if I am still wounded I will attract someone wounded to help me work through it

Misery loves company, yes. 

That and the room to identify with them over similarities and common ground can shortcut some empathic passages through sympathetic prompts. 

but once I am healed from those wounds am I still going to attract a wounded partner because I am a healer ? 

You would still identify with it, so probably. 

Think about how people at recovery groups are, they become strong enough to withstand the problem but still end up carrying it with them as experience.

They are still those people just enough to still fall into sympathetic patterns that someone who never experienced the problem might not feel. 

shamanqueen said: 

I would think that instead I should attract a healthy partner and possibly not settle for less  I mean that seems healthy,  right ?

How would you describe a healthy partner, if you had it like a bullet list of traits? 

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Turncoat said: 

So platonic more like your Lana arc? 

 Emily is bisexual.

Turncoat said: 

shamanqueen said: 

I would think that instead I should attract a healthy partner and possibly not settle for less  I mean that seems healthy,  right ?

How would you describe a healthy partner, if you had it like a bullet list of traits? 

loyal and does not give me reason to doubt,  like I will not feel a sense of power losee and humiliation that is being used as an attempt to control me by a partner

strong and brave,  like me  more interested in me than I am in them lol because I am very independent but I also desire to love and be loved  I just prefer to be obsessed over but not in a damaging way,  especially because I had given my power away to idealizing other people for many years

I am going to have a lot to offer in the future because I am going to have very positive loving peaceful gentle healing vibes and many people will like it and want to be around it  (intuitively sensing this,  and I still do not trust my intuition 100 percent)

Delora said: 

Turncoat said: 

So platonic more like your Lana arc? 

 Emily is bisexual.

She keeps openly revering Men though, while proxying onto or competing with women. 

Maybe that's the problem, maybe no MAN is good enough for her. 

Maybe she needs a Lesbian arc.