my whole identity is defined by my avoidance and anxiety. likely childhood emotional traumas/unsafe patterns which made me feel too unsecure to be vulnerable in any relationship, which extrapolated itself across my life from then on, reinforcing it.
what is YOUR attachment style?
this idea suggests that relationships formed early (typically with parents/carers) have an influence of our perception of bonding. Meaning we mirror the reciprocal behaviour of our parents well into adulthood.
People with a secure attachment style tend to do better in life, form meaningful, lasting relationships and have an advantage over damaged attachment styles. I am very much avoidant still, and had the worst of both worlds, but am anxious to a greatly lesser extent. let's see who else is out there.