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my whole identity is defined by my avoidance and anxiety. likely childhood emotional traumas/unsafe patterns which made me feel too unsecure to be vulnerable in any relationship, which extrapolated itself across my life from then on, reinforcing it. 

what is YOUR attachment style? 

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https://simplypsychology.org/attachment-styles.html 

https://www.betterhelp.com/advice/anxiety/understanding-the-anxious-avoidant-attachment-style/ 

https://www.therapistaid.com/therapy-worksheet/creating-secure-attachment-tips 

 

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this idea suggests that relationships formed early (typically with parents/carers) have an influence of our perception of bonding. Meaning we mirror the reciprocal behaviour of our parents well into adulthood. 

People with a secure attachment style tend to do better in life, form meaningful, lasting relationships and have an advantage over damaged attachment styles. I am very much avoidant still, and had the worst of both worlds, but am anxious to a greatly lesser extent. let's see who else is out there. 

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/toxic-relationships/202104/how-change-your-attachment-style-and-your-relationships  

https://www.forbes.com/sites/allbusiness/2021/11/26/understanding-employee-attachment-styles-helps-managers-build-more-cohesive-teams/  

What is your attachment style?
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preoccupied
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You can change it or work with it. Take responsibility.

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Definitely this one no question. 

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I used to be fearful avoidant now I am secure. 

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Mine is idk cus I don't care. I bet blanc will give you a twenty page auto biography on hers though.

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My parents treated me like shit but I have really healthy relationships with people now despite that.

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Definitely this one no question. 

 How so?

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However, other researchers have proposed that rather than a single internal working model, which is generalized across relationships, each type of relationship comprises a different working model. This means a person could be securely attached to their parents but insecurely attached in romantic relationships.
 
Family: avoidant

Romantic partner: secure

Friends/ Others: anxious

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Definitely this one no question. 

 More people have this attachment style here than want to admit. 

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Definitely this one no question. 

 More people have this attachment style here than want to admit. 

It feels like I see a fair amount of Avoidant going on here too, as shown by an odd confidence in a more solitary life in spite of low interpersonal skills. 

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Anxious types still throw themselves out there, but once out there aren't really sure what to do with it. Avoidant would probably sit around telling themselves things are fine if they otherwise express low anxiety over their sense of self. 

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last edit on 3/15/2023 5:11:48 PM
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