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velvet said: 

ddddddld said:

you manage hotels out of the office, how does that look like?

 No I only manage one department of one hotel, so I'm usually off somewhere actively doing that then only head to the office for paperwork and the like 

I prefer to spend as much time out of the office as I can

 I met a girl from Germany who managed a hotel but I don't think it's you because the odds of that would be slim. I don't know her name anyhow because she stopped talking to me shortly after we met. 
edit: I liked her though, in case it is you. 

ddddddld said: 

velvet said: 

ddddddld said: 

I think the response to this question reflects a personal ideology that varies based on the worldview if one has. I see both sides. Some doctors prefer not to reveal gender, especially early in a pregnancy, because the expectant mother becomes more attached to the fetus and the dream of her future child. Then bam, she miscarries and the gelatinous mess in the toilet bowl, she named Bruce, is very painful to meet irl and she becomes a fucking mess. I saw this with a girl at work go through this. I requested a new desk so I wouldn't have to listen to her sobbing. It was unprofessional.

 How far along was she? She must have miscarried quite late if the doctor was already able to tell the gender, and in that case I wager she would have already been very attached 

 I don't know how far along she was. Her stomach didn't show a baby yet though. I just googled and learned they can tell sex at 11=12 weeks. I think that's quite early. 

 If she had been growing attached to the idea of her baby for 2 months then I don't think knowing the gender would make too much difference in her heartbreak. the chances of miscarriage after 12 weeks also drops dramatically, unlucky for her but if the chances after that point are generally low but never zero then do you think there is never a good time to find out before the birth?

velvet said: 

ddddddld said: 

velvet said: 

 How far along was she? She must have miscarried quite late if the doctor was already able to tell the gender, and in that case I wager she would have already been very attached 

 I don't know how far along she was. Her stomach didn't show a baby yet though. I just googled and learned they can tell sex at 11=12 weeks. I think that's quite early. 

 If she had been growing attached to the idea of her baby for 2 months then I don't think knowing the gender would make too much difference in her heartbreak. the chances of miscarriage after 12 weeks also drops dramatically, unlucky for her but if the chances after that point are generally low but never zero then do you think there is never a good time to find out before the birth?

 I think it's a personal choice that doesn't really matter. Some people like surprises and are more go with the flow types, more spontaneous. Others, have more anxiety with uncertainty and like more control over their situation. It's up to each person to do what they need.

It reminds me of the allergy of peanuts. So if parents are scared of this you will not give your child peanut butter, but if you are more hands off you will give the baby peanut butter. Most kids who have peanut allergies weren't exposed to it young enough so they get sick. In trying to control all things people can make their worst fears come true. lmao Too much helicopter parents and bubble kids I think.