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Ask them questions about the things they say.

If they're trying to manipulate or troll you, they will contradict themselves, eventually.

I will often have success with this tactic within minutes.

Sometimes it will take a few days or a few dates.

Note: bona fide sociopaths contradict themselves constantly bc they have shit for memory.

No feelings or empathy make it difficult for meaningful experiences to stick to their grey matter.

Xena said: 

Ask them questions about the things they say.

If they're trying to manipulate or troll you, they will contradict themselves, eventually.

 

I will often have success with this tactic within minutes.

Sometimes it will take a few days or a few dates.

 

Note: bona fide sociopaths contradict themselves constantly bc they have shit for memory.

No feelings or empathy make it difficult for meaningful experiences to stick to their grey matter.

 This is true, but what if the sociopath is telling the truth. Where they actually know you will be asking them questions. A real evil one. Maybe she has one of these.

Well there are some areas where truth doesn't rlly matter.

Like in trivial things like the weather, taste in movies, mom's fluffy dog habits.

Some people will just fib about that stuff bc it's easier than arguing all the time.

When somebody lies to get somebody to do smthg harmful, smthg that they wouldn't normally do, that's when the warning bells should go off.

It's a matter of what and how often.

Sky diving (for example) is not necessarily a doorway to murder, but it could be.

If the person seems too attached to his plan to jump out of a plane, and he's lying his face off to get you to go along with it, there's a very serious problem there.

Empath said: 

I want to make new friends and connections but I have trust issues so when I connect with someone I feel like they are just pretending we are connecting to manipulate me.

I can't tell if my instincts are telling me this person is a manipulator like the ones I've met before or if this is real normal connection and I am just being triggered because of my trauma.

Does anyone know how to tell the difference between genuine connection and like love-bombing/just fake connecting from a sociopath?

I can't tell if im feeling fear because my instincts know this person is dangerous or if im just attracted to them???

 Stuff like that is easier to determine if you're willing to explore the cold hard truth about yourself.

For example, it'll come across as mean if I ask, are you pretty ?

See that's a creepy question right, and commonly off limits, nor is it really my business. But take heed and ask yourself, are you hot or not ? The answer to that will help you weigh odds. Stuff like this matters regardless of what people have to say about it.

If you're just a regular person on the scale, then odds are you're not being toyed with again, however, if this type of thing happens a lot, that is, you being love bombed, then it's because you've put on a display of easy prey to a certain type of person yet again. You'll then have to weigh in on that other guy status, how desirable he is to others etc, if you can't gauge him. 

If he's good looking and confident in his approach while you fancy him, then something might be wrong if he's resorting to love bombing.

Love bombing is a bad sign. Though be sure whatever it is they are doing, that it actually is love bombing. You can read about love bombing and in every case you find you'll see something is wrong with it, so, if your subject really is love bombing, then you have someone who is determined in an unhealthy way, to keep you. If that person is somewhat obsessed, then imagine how they might turn out if you're in a relationship with that person, and you get into an argument or a disagreement, you might find they aren't well.

With little detail that's the best I can do.  I don't claim what I've wrote here is accurate to your case. It could be nothing, though love bombing is kind of a red flag in every outlet that mentions it. 

Empath said: 

I want to make new friends and connections but I have trust issues so when I connect with someone I feel like they are just pretending we are connecting to manipulate me.

I can't tell if my instincts are telling me this person is a manipulator like the ones I've met before or if this is real normal connection and I am just being triggered because of my trauma.

Does anyone know how to tell the difference between genuine connection and like love-bombing/just fake connecting from a sociopath?

I can't tell if im feeling fear because my instincts know this person is dangerous or if im just attracted to them???

 'Can you tell when someone is lying to you?'
Yes. I think you're lying but I'll play along. Tell me how this love bomb looks like. 

The problem isn't that people are willing to lie to you to ingratiate themselves, the problem is that you're easily impressed.

Also your gut instinct seems correct, follow it.

Empath said: 

Does anyone know how to tell the difference between genuine connection and like love-bombing/just fake connecting from a sociopath?

 It feels like the effort would be the same trying to describe color to someone born blind.

Empath said: 

I want to make new friends and connections but I have trust issues so when I connect with someone I feel like they are just pretending we are connecting to manipulate me.

I can't tell if my instincts are telling me this person is a manipulator like the ones I've met before or if this is real normal connection and I am just being triggered because of my trauma.

Does anyone know how to tell the difference between genuine connection and like love-bombing/just fake connecting from a sociopath?

I can't tell if im feeling fear because my instincts know this person is dangerous or if im just attracted to them???

What are you afraid of? Being raped or something?

Ask your friends. That's one advice. If you don't trust your own instincts, trust your friends' instincts. Ask them if the person seems rape-y.