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As an outsider looking in, this doesn't read like you did anything wrong. To me it sounds like your girlfriend experienced something very traumatic and is processing it at her own pace in her own way. We can only speculate on the reasons why.

Without outright saying you know I think you just ask her how she is doing, and be a strong source of support for her right now. People process trauma in different ways, it doesn't make any way wrong or right (unless they choose self-destructive behaviors as a coping mech)

You have an obnoxious tendency to start armchair shrinking other people when smthg is stressing you.

Especially if there is disagreement about w/e is being discussed.

Like you hate so badly to feel like you're losing an argument that you have to tell yourself the other person is crazy to make yourself feel better.

Besides being ridiculously incorrect, your misdiagnoses are also rude and vaguely insulting.

Outro said: 

So long story short, my gf and her (our mutual) friend went trail running at a place we all know well. It's usually pretty deserted, which is its appeal.

Anyway, she and the friend saw something traumatic. Someone had gassed themselves in their car in the parking lot. Had to attempt resus, call 911 etc. The man was long dead in the end (friend is a nurse). 

So my gf tells friend not to tell me. Friend does anyway.

I'm perplexed as to why gf asked not to tell me. Unclear if its because I've seen my fair share of traumatic deaths (which I thought would be an advantage), or whether its because I respond to this stuff in an undesirable way.

Its shitty - because now I know and wanna bring it up to make sure she's ok, but also don't wanna make things worse because for whatever reason, she doesn't want to talk to me about it. 

I'm thinking I've done something wrong along the way that makes me not a good confidante, but idk what it is. 

 have her friend tell her that she told you so you can discuss all this with your gf
or wait some time and tell her, her friend told you

def shouldnt let this go, if it bothers you, which it should imo

Outro said: 

Anyway, she and the friend saw something traumatic. Someone had gassed themselves in their car in the parking lot.

How'd that happen? 

So no, don't bring it up.

She saw a dead stranger in his car, big deal ~

She does not need your help to get over it.

Xena said: 

So no, don't bring it up.

She saw a dead stranger in his car, big deal ~

She does not need your help to get over it.

Shoe on the other foot, what if it was the man being like "She can't handle hearing about something like this"? 

Turncoat said: 

Outro said: 

Anyway, she and the friend saw something traumatic. Someone had gassed themselves in their car in the parking lot.

How'd that happen? 

 Pfft. It happens all the time.

Public parking lot, they're passing through.

Guy decided he didn't need a Kavorkian pod to Kavorkian himself.

Used the exhaust fumes from his car to kill himself.

It was a random chance encounter.

Guy was already dead.

Turncoat said: 

Xena said: 

So no, don't bring it up.

She saw a dead stranger in his car, big deal ~

She does not need your help to get over it.

Shoe on the other foot, what if it was the man being like "She can't handle hearing about something like this"? 

 If she couldn't handle it, she would not have told her friend to keep quiet about the incident.

She would have gone straight to the boyfriend if she needed his support.

Xena said: 

Turncoat said: 

Outro said: 

Anyway, she and the friend saw something traumatic. Someone had gassed themselves in their car in the parking lot.

How'd that happen? 

 Pfft. It happens all the time.

I have never seen this happen in a parking lot, and that's not from a lack of parking lot exposure in my lifetime. 

If I were to panel a survey, I'd wager a high majority have never seen this happen. This more often than not happens in their garage or at least by their home right?