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I have to say, I have a lot of respect for this new level of honesty. I’m sure you experience your honest self on a daily basis? But being so raw,… it’s lovely. And can be very rewarding- though very difficult. 

Just keep in mind while navigating this kind of personal shadow work, sometimes it is best done when you’re not doing it alone/ however to have boundaries during this process… healthy boundaries. 

As someone well versed in being super duper open with the internet- there is a lot of stuff you have to filter out. And there have come times where I was going through too much to be able to deal with the stress of this “feedback” on top of it. And the feedback you get may not be conducive to your personal growth process. 

Ultimately, for me for example I had to figure that out the hard way, on my own- and it took years to really feel comfortable putting these boundaries into place and knowing where to place them… it took a long time to understand not to give much energy to what doesn’t serve you ultimately in a healthy or positive way. 

However, even negative feedback can be constructive ultimately depending how you frame it. 

Also a great recovery group for people who are dealing with behavioral issues they want to change is known as ACA- adult children of alcoholics. I know someone personally with dx borderline personality disorder who wholeheartedly supports the recovery group and really believes in it, that it can help people and can be very meaningful and make a difference. And that it was very meaningful to them, personally and changed their life, possibly saved it. 

Anyway, it is not recommended by members of this group you just dive head first into it, as it can become overwhelming quickly and ultimately do more harm than good. So with the go ahead from a professional, I would say, at the very least. See if this or something along these lines peaks your interest. 

There is no one size fits all to recovering and healing, keep that in mind and that particular group is just one route that people indulge in, in order to go about it. 

Really my point is here that there are *options* out there, and to pursue those options with a little curiosity and open mindedness, in my personal experience hasn’t been the worst thing. It actually has helped. 

It’s more about learning the necessary stuff as to what is needed for me to deal with What i deal with and for it to become more and more livable and manageable. 

The group is not just for children of alcoholics, but for people who have had dysfunctional families, mental illness, etc in one/more parents care giver and unstable or otherwise unhealthy family dynamics? And are trying to heal from the significant impact it has had on their psychological and emotional well being, as well as resulting in unhealthy behaviors. 

Blanc said: 

Also a great recovery group for people who are dealing with behavioral issues they want to change is known as ACA- adult children of alcoholics.

She doesn't want to learn from anyone she could construe as mentally ill though, she sees that as enabling it. 

8/26/2022-  my self-esteem, self confidence and self-respect are starting to come back,  but the depression is still lingering pretty intensely  a lot of this required arguments in my head with myself,  with my inner critic trying to convince me that I am everything bad and horrible that a human can be,  and my self-compassionate inner angel talking me out of all of those negative untruthful slanderous thoughts that my inner critic,  although well intentioned and trying to warn me from potential imminent destruction and social rejection, keeps trying to flood my head with  thankful to say that my inner angel has been successfully winning out,  so this is definitely a good sign that improved mental health and wellness is not so far out of reach for me as it seemed even yesterday  :)

Inner angel for the win  👍

What was that conversation like?  I mean, the dialog itself.

Buttered Toast said: 

What was that conversation like?

essentially,  both parts of me were trying to convince me  (my core self)  of their perspectives about how I should think about myself as a person and their assessment of my personality,  and my Inner angel part made the best arguments and won the thought battles  It is interesting because in the past I did not really have an Inner angel part,  and I would have to tell my mother or a therapist about the horrible beliefs that I was having about myself in hopes that they would tell me compassionate things about myself and see the best in me  but somehow,  and Idk if it was specifically having some experience with Internal Family Systems therapy or maybe even the brief time that I returned to believing in christianity,  although I now see christianity as a violent religion,  the concepts of grace and forgiveness and unconditional love were understood and accepted by my core self,  and it developed into a part of me that is continuing on with me even after having left my religious beliefs in the past

I cannot remember ever having an Inner angel part in the past,  even when I was younger,  but I remember having an Inner critic part since as long as I have been alive

on the concept of God,  I do believe in a higher power and still believe in God,  but I do not believe in the religious concepts of God with all of the judgmentalness and condemnation and cursing involved  for me,  my God is an unconditionally loving, benevolent, compassionate and nurturing God that draws everyone back to him/her/itself eventually,  after probably lifetimes of soul evolution

JesusistheKing said: 

on the concept of God,  I do believe in a higher power and still believe in God,  but I do not believe in the religious concepts of God with all of the judgementalness and condemnation and cursing involved  for me,  my God is an unconditionally loving benevolent compassionate and nurturing God that draws everyone back to him/itself eventually,  after probably lifetimes of soul evolution

 You might be interested in looking into Spiritism.

Buttered Toast said: 

JesusistheKing said: 

on the concept of God,  I do believe in a higher power and still believe in God,  but I do not believe in the religious concepts of God with all of the judgementalness and condemnation and cursing involved  for me,  my God is an unconditionally loving benevolent compassionate and nurturing God that draws everyone back to him/itself eventually,  after probably lifetimes of soul evolution

 You might be interested in looking into Spiritism.

I did,  and agree with the concepts so far about always evolving into higher lifeforms and not really going backwards because I do see evidence of at least microevolution in the world around us,  but I do believe that we could possibly choose even other alien bodies to incarnate,  and eventually become more of a spirit than combined to a body until eventually possibly evolving back into God him/her/itself,  and then starting the process all over again but making new decisions and so just infinely repeating the cycle of evolution over and over,  and exploring our creativity and consciousness in new and different ways each time

I think of it as an absolute horror story to relive your same life over and over again lol  I know some people think that that might be a thing,  but no I think that the point of being a living conscious being is to explore all the different ways to be creative and all different types of life experiences and constantly be learning more and more and creating new and different and interesting creations and experiences and worlds

JesusistheKing said: 

Buttered Toast said: 

JesusistheKing said: 

on the concept of God,  I do believe in a higher power and still believe in God,  but I do not believe in the religious concepts of God with all of the judgementalness and condemnation and cursing involved  for me,  my God is an unconditionally loving benevolent compassionate and nurturing God that draws everyone back to him/itself eventually,  after probably lifetimes of soul evolution

 You might be interested in looking into Spiritism.

I did,  and agree with the concepts so far about always evolving into higher lifeforms and not really going backwards because I do see evidence of at least microevolution in the world around us,  but I do believe that we could possibly choose even other alien bodies to incarnate,  and eventually become more of a spirit than combined to a body until eventually possibly evolving back into God him/her/itself,  and then starting the process all over again but making new decisions and so just infinely repeating the cycle of evolution over and over,  and exploring our creativity and consciousness in new and different ways each time

 

Yes, and they do talk about spirits incarnating from (and going to) other worlds.  Much of what you’re describing is compatible.  And while Spiritism does describe your advancement as up to you, including making none, it doesn’t mean doing the same life over.  The world is also evolving, doesn’t have to stand still for you or do over. 

Blanc said: 

I have to say, I have a lot of respect for this new level of honesty. I’m sure you experience your honest self on a daily basis? But being so raw,… it’s lovely. And can be very rewarding- though very difficult. 

 

Just keep in mind while navigating this kind of personal shadow work, sometimes it is best done when you’re not doing it alone/ however to have boundaries during this process… healthy boundaries. 

 

As someone well versed in being super duper open with the internet- there is a lot of stuff you have to filter out. And there have come times where I was going through too much to be able to deal with the stress of this “feedback” on top of it. And the feedback you get may not be conducive to your personal growth process. 

Ultimately, for me for example I had to figure that out the hard way, on my own- and it took years to really feel comfortable putting these boundaries into place and knowing where to place them… it took a long time to understand not to give much energy to what doesn’t serve you ultimately in a healthy or positive way. 

However, even negative feedback can be constructive ultimately depending how you frame it. 

thank you,  yeah I am realizing that being honest at the very least with yourself is essential for doing shadow work,  but when you are also honest with others about parts of your shadow that you are struggling with it can open up all sorts of new ways of thinking about it and about how to turn it into something healthy and positive and beneficial

and yeah I have also been putting up boundaries because there is helpful and unhelpful stuff that comes from other people on this forum's comments,  especially since fueling my inner critic when I have not mastered calming it yet can be kind of dangerous and can lead to overwhelming depression really fast,  which I am trying to avoid-  for obvious reasons

there has been feedback that has been beneficial to me that has come from feedback from this forum though which is why I come back,  like it is not self-sabotaging that I use this forum but sometimes I need to put up boundaries,  and sometimes I need space,  and sometimes when my Inner critic is triggered I lash out at other people which I really get frustrated with because I usually feel bad about it afterwards