- Knew the person for a month
- I ran into trouble with the law
My record is clean and I steer clear of legal trouble, then someone comes along and brings such grief into my life.
Rat him out.
- Knew the person for a month
- I ran into trouble with the law
My record is clean and I steer clear of legal trouble, then someone comes along and brings such grief into my life.
Rat him out.
Him ratting you out as well would mean two years for you both and a no longer cleaner record, but at least you wouldn't risk five. 🤷
There's also no indication that your friend doesn't have a clean record as well, you two could have simply been at the wrong place at the wrong time or it may have been an accident on both of your parts. These could even be crooked cops trying to pin it on someone uninvolved, maybe it's racially motivated against you two.
That being said, would your answer change if instead of cops it was mobsters or some other sort of group that otherwise maintains their own brand of order but are not the law?
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Knowing someone for a month is hardly "friends".
Better than knowing them for a day, or a week.
Why two years though instead of one?
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Knowing someone for a month is hardly "friends".
Better than knowing them for a day, or a week.
Why two years though instead of one?
A year isn't long enough, I suppose it's a personal assessment, depends on who you ask.
There's a lot of fun you can have with a computer.
SomeKindaFunnyGuy said:A year isn't long enough, I suppose it's a personal assessment, depends on who you ask.
It'd probably just take me a couple of solid months to learn to trust someone, as far as I can trust them anyway, but a month would still give me an impression at least over their likely answer which would strongly influence my own.
Sometimes though I just meet someone and we hit it off immediately, and for that sort I'd be less prone to throwing them under the bus. Even then... the idea of someone else being silent when I snitch giving them a five year sentence is kinda haunting if they could find me again, but serving half a decade in prison over hoping they don't say anything is a big risk too.
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SomeKindaFunnyGuy said:A year isn't long enough, I suppose it's a personal assessment, depends on who you ask.It'd probably just take me a couple of solid months to learn to trust someone, as far as I can trust them anyway, but a month would still give me an impression at least over their likely answer which would strongly influence my own.
Sometimes though I just meet someone and we hit it off immediately, and for that sort I'd be less prone to throwing them under the bus. Even then... the idea of someone else being silent when I snitch giving them a five year sentence is kinda haunting if they could find me again, but serving half a decade in prison over hoping they don't say anything is a big risk too.
Someone who has known you for a month is more than likely going to fuck you over to save his own hide.
I don't like the idea of gambling on some schmuck to also gamble on me.
There's a lot of fun you can have with a computer.
I don't like the idea of gambling on some schmuck to also gamble on me.
That is where it gets interesting, trying to figure how much your everyman could be trusted.
This is also what makes Turquie's answer interesting, she's factoring very different things and to her there's no gamble involved at all. If it were over the mob she'd associate that with Satan, which in turn could affect her cooperation.
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I don't like the idea of gambling on some schmuck to also gamble on me.
That is where it gets interesting, trying to figure how much your everyman could be trusted.
This is also what makes Turquie's answer interesting, she's factoring very different things and to her there's no gamble involved at all. If it were over the mob she'd associate that with Satan, which in turn could affect her cooperation.
Staying silent to me has nothing to do with trust, I still expect the other guy to rat even if I've known him for 2+ years.
It's more about "I don't fuck over my friends".
Your average Joe is gonna crack under the pressure or think through and realize his chance of getting no time is less than 50%.
There's a lot of fun you can have with a computer.
Silence, if I think I can trust the person. Accuse, if I have any doubt.
Based on your own nature, what are your odds of doubt over some sort of average guy being that friend (in percentages maybe)?
Personally the idea of accusing the other person makes me very uncomfortable even with it technically being the safer answer for years spent in prison. I also figure even the most well meaning person is liable to panic, which should increase my odds of accusing them for my own safety, but then that ends up gambling them being silent and spending five years behind bars for doing what I'd otherwise say was the right thing.
I don't really know how I'd answer this question beyond bringing up such a hypothetical with the friend in question before going through any crimes in hopes of making some sort of pact if not at least come to an understanding. The mystery of it would be the hardest part of figuring an answer for it even over an average rando.
Barring that... I'd probably not say anything unless the severity of the crime was high enough to affect my judgement, like if the two of us had been responsible for a murder arguably in self defense or a hit-and-run or something.
It’s difficult to give odds on something like that. If I trusted someone enough to do something illegal with them, the odds probably aren’t terrible. But if it’s just been a month of knowing them, things are less clear. It comes down to how much they fear retribution from me, or if they’re a “no snitches” type (means less than many may think), how swayed they are by loyalty, etc.
It did occur to me that accusing was probably the most economic choice, but accusing someone who thought they had a mutual understanding with me doesn’t sit right with me. Accusing is more of a safe fallback where mutual understanding isn’t present.