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Today's subject. "Help I'm in a sexual relationship with a Borderline woman and I can't get out ! Bitch I love you"
First I'll mention borderline is manageable and there are cases where they go on to live better lives and with some effort their relationships can last, then there's unmaintained borderline. Here we'll focus on the effects of BPD on romantic partners.
Idealization. Here the BPD will idolize their target. Usually this is where the man will fall for her. She's perfect, the person you've fallen in love with. She makes you feel like a man, and shows a great deal of interest if whatever you're doing. BPD are very sensitive and usually have no problem reading you like an open book. If she love bombs you, you'll be caught in a love spell. Someone so perfect, she'll be an absolute dream come true, like someone you never expected appears, and they exceed everything you ever hoped for no matter what they have to offer.
The BPD becomes sensitive to everything you do and say. She won't want you talking to other females even on a professional level, to her it feels like being cheated on. I would narrow this down to self perceived insecurities. A trust issue. ( BPD greatly fear abandonment ) Here the person you've fallen in love with will morph into a stranger you'll soon become more acquainted with, but never really get to know fully.
Before long the BPD will shit test you. Want to see how you'll react to certain situations. Your output is important to the point of it cradling their ego. The like feeling secure. The your feelings means nothing and are less important than the experiments.
The person you've fallen does return, and in the moment everything is wonderful again. It's such a relief it was worth the bullshit.
The phase opposite to the idealization stage, is the devaluation stage, and it's every bit as intense as the idolization stage, except it's the complete opposite. You'll be amazed at how creative she'll become while you're being slayed. The things she says will be cold beyond your imagination.
BPD and Sex
This is without a doubt the best sex. Stamped and approved by men world wide. It also adds to the sweet meth of how obsessed you'll be with her. There are various theories as to why this type of woman give men raging hormones. If there are indeed demons among us, then this attribute alone would be the world of Satan.
An interesting paper.
Love bombing. I'm certain there's a case of that going on here in SC these days. It's nothing new. In CS's case wanting to connect with her... ex ex ex ex, her love bombing also falls under the category of hoovering. That's when the subject will return to one of her victims and harpoon and reel them back once again. Barrel did hit it, but he's drawn boundaries. The only way for the hoovered to make it out in 1 piece, is to lower his standards and come closer to the dark side and basically objectify the BPD, while setting low expectations and being prepared to take a loss, which, might, seen as a win for the man who wants another sample of the pudding, but overall, it's a bad idea to accept any form of relief from the subject. That being said use precaution if you're going to link up with your BPD ex.
A broken man's advice
That being his opinion. His comments section is a good read as well.
Personally I can't help but laugh when I see guys recovering from this type of bewilderment. Laughter is truly the way. If you can't laugh about it after a long time, then you could be prone to male suicide as some guys have killed themselves over the behavior of their lady.
If you evolve from this experience positively, it's because you've realized it isn't you, it's just how she is and IF, you were able to see her past relationships, you'd find it's a path of destruction.
Whis is Tryptamine and Barrel more chill than Chapo ? That's a question for another day, but what's clear is the more stable composure will be more exciting to the BPD female. Will Chapo go quietly into the night ? Or will he have a complete meltdown and actually choke CS to death ? This thread is for him really. It's best to learn as much about the condition as he can.
If Chapo survives this without killing CS and getting incarcerated, he'll transform into a man of men. Where a seat in the furnace is but a holiday, while all tears are reserved for beautiful things only.
It's possible to make it work with one of these beauties, the man will have to be fine with being an emotional tampon every now and then. She'll switch. If she's paranoid she'll watch you and if your eye or nose even flinches, ( and it probably will cause you see her watching you ) it'll bring grief into your life.
