I am not saying this because I want to "see your relationship crash and burn" as BR put it. I am saying this because I like you both.
It is possible to care deeply for someone who is not yout soulmate.
Your soulmate is someone who will bring joy and goodness into your life, not pain and grief.
BR, you were on track to graduating in a good degree feild.
Plumeria, you were so happy living in Hawaii and streaming and answering to nobody but your own calls to adventure.
You could both be happy again.