I worry too much irl about what people are thinking about my behaviour etc too, but not because I want to be seen as something in particular I think? more because in general I want not to be viewed, seen or perceived. I hate an audience, selective invisibility would be great.
I'm trying to be a better feminist and to act more just how I want to, so I didn't wear a bra when I went to the shops today, but then I spent the entire time pretending to text with my phone up close to my face so I could kind of cover my chest with my arms.
maybe it is to do with how I want to be perceived too idk