So, I can give a short answer. You can take it and synthesize it how you want, I won't be responding to the thread much longer because to me it's become stale.
You have multiple people telling you that you have this habit of formulating your own narrative and trying to push it. In the particular context we're talking here, instead of acknowledging what Lena is saying and maybe wondering about it as multiple people have been telling you the same thing, you basically handwave it and try to justify "questioning." But the thing is, we know you're not just questioning, you're supporting your behavior. We've all seen enough to notice this kind of thing, and many times people have communicated it to you.
It's not that you're dense, you're of course one of the most clever people here. It's just that you fall into this habit. For example you'll think that me losing an interest in a discussion is some sign that I'm "retreating," or that I can't justify some line of reasoning. You push these ideas and wrap them up neatly, and frankly it's usually pretty insightful. But you should also realize you operate in patterns that we all can observe, and sometimes they're tiresome.