It's also Delora's responsibility to deal with her own feelings, though.
Because a husband should not defend his wife or attempt to comfort her?
Not remotely what I said, but while you're at it, it depends on circumstance.
I didn't say that's what you said, I was asking if that's your conclusion
Why would that be my conclusion?
Idk, br is my husband, and you seem to find fault on a husband (br) trying to defend his wife (me) so it kinda seemed that way
So you made yourself feel bad after trying to pimp out your husband and are pining it on cs as a scapegoat?
Delora said:No I don't think she did it on purpose I think she was trying to helpWow lena, your perception on things fascinates me, way to play double speak
Me saying she sees an sc hierarchy and is trying to be on top of it by fucking most of the guys here to feel desirable doesn't negate the fact that you tried to pimp out your husband for a kid and then felt bad about it and had a whole irl issue where he had to make a thread about how you're crying over something you were trying to volunteer him for without his knowledge or consent.
16:35:41
Lena said:Her putting you down and saying essentially that you deserved to be cheated on and (did i read this wrong? She called you ugly and you agreed?) Then putting down your looks?A current summary of what lena is now saying:
Lena said:Wowwwwww delora, your just upset because of YOURSELF, what did cs say to upset you? I'm playing ditz todayMy response: no it's not cs,s fault
You: so your saying-
You just said it wasn't her fault so I've decided not to blame her....did-
Did you want me to blame her anyways?
Ok, so why didn't you say that in the first place? So, you feel you blaming her in the first place was wrong on your part? Also- that's odd, since from the start before you even said any of this I was already saying it wasn't her fault, how many times did me saying the same statement finally convince you? So this means I was right, cs was innocent and ou were wrong? Where is the apology thread?
Your husband and I seem to be in agreement that CS is doing this to be malicious.
Delora I'm blaming you, you're the reason your husband made this thread- you've already said you think she was only trying to help, you're pulling info from a completely different thread to derail what we're talking about here in this thread where I'm saying she has ulterior motives.
You said it's not her fault, fine. So I'm saying that you felt insecure about a surrogacy arrangement that you made where you were essentially trying to pimp out your husband without his consent and you felt so bad about it your husband had to make a thread blaming her- you've at the very least not communicated with him enough to make him understand you don't think it's her fault.
You putting your insecure issues and crying about them to your husband- but you're insecure about CS, essentially pinning them on to her-
You're at fault here, and I'm trying to make that clear to you. You were upset over a problem that you created.
Also why would I make an apology thread?
It's also Delora's responsibility to deal with her own feelings, though.
Because a husband should not defend his wife or attempt to comfort her?
Not remotely what I said, but while you're at it, it depends on circumstance.
I didn't say that's what you said, I was asking if that's your conclusion
Why would that be my conclusion?
Idk, br is my husband, and you seem to find fault on a husband (br) trying to defend his wife (me) so it kinda seemed that way
Why would you want him to defend you? Isn't CS innocent?
So you made yourself feel bad after trying to pimp out your husband and are pining it on cs as a scapegoat?
Delora said:No I don't think she did it on purpose I think she was trying to helpWow lena, your perception on things fascinates me, way to play double speak
Me saying she sees an sc hierarchy and is trying to be on top of it by fucking most of the guys here to feel desirable doesn't negate the fact that you tried to pimp out your husband for a kid and then felt bad about it and had a whole irl issue where he had to make a thread about how you're crying over something you were trying to volunteer him for without his knowledge or consent.
16:35:41
Lena said:Her putting you down and saying essentially that you deserved to be cheated on and (did i read this wrong? She called you ugly and you agreed?) Then putting down your looks?A current summary of what lena is now saying:
Lena said:Wowwwwww delora, your just upset because of YOURSELF, what did cs say to upset you? I'm playing ditz todayMy response: no it's not cs,s fault
You: so your saying-
You just said it wasn't her fault so I've decided not to blame her....did-
Did you want me to blame her anyways?
Ok, so why didn't you say that in the first place? So, you feel you blaming her in the first place was wrong on your part? Also- that's odd, since from the start before you even said any of this I was already saying it wasn't her fault, how many times did me saying the same statement finally convince you? So this means I was right, cs was innocent and ou were wrong? Where is the apology thread?
Your husband and I seem to be in agreement that CS is doing this to be malicious.
Delora I'm blaming you, you're the reason your husband made this thread- you've already said you think she was only trying to help, you're pulling info from a completely different thread to derail what we're talking about here in this thread where I'm saying she has ulterior motives.
You said it's not her fault, fine. So I'm saying that you felt insecure about a surrogacy arrangement that you made where you were essentially trying to pimp out your husband without his consent and you felt so bad about it your husband had to make a thread blaming her- you've at the very least not communicated with him enough to make him understand you don't think it's her fault.
You putting your insecure issues and crying about them to your husband- but you're insecure about CS, essentially pinning them on to her-
You're at fault here, and I'm trying to make that clear to you. You were upset over a problem that you created.
Also why would I make an apology thread?
I explained why you should make that thread. Anyway, but why specifically are out blaming me?
So you made yourself feel bad after trying to pimp out your husband and are pining it on cs as a scapegoat?
Delora said:No I don't think she did it on purpose I think she was trying to helpWow lena, your perception on things fascinates me, way to play double speak
Me saying she sees an sc hierarchy and is trying to be on top of it by fucking most of the guys here to feel desirable doesn't negate the fact that you tried to pimp out your husband for a kid and then felt bad about it and had a whole irl issue where he had to make a thread about how you're crying over something you were trying to volunteer him for without his knowledge or consent.
16:35:41
Lena said:Her putting you down and saying essentially that you deserved to be cheated on and (did i read this wrong? She called you ugly and you agreed?) Then putting down your looks?A current summary of what lena is now saying:
Lena said:Wowwwwww delora, your just upset because of YOURSELF, what did cs say to upset you? I'm playing ditz todayMy response: no it's not cs,s fault
You: so your saying-
You just said it wasn't her fault so I've decided not to blame her....did-
Did you want me to blame her anyways?
Ok, so why didn't you say that in the first place? So, you feel you blaming her in the first place was wrong on your part? Also- that's odd, since from the start before you even said any of this I was already saying it wasn't her fault, how many times did me saying the same statement finally convince you? So this means I was right, cs was innocent and ou were wrong? Where is the apology thread?
Your husband and I seem to be in agreement that CS is doing this to be malicious.
Delora I'm blaming you, you're the reason your husband made this thread- you've already said you think she was only trying to help, you're pulling info from a completely different thread to derail what we're talking about here in this thread where I'm saying she has ulterior motives.
You said it's not her fault, fine. So I'm saying that you felt insecure about a surrogacy arrangement that you made where you were essentially trying to pimp out your husband without his consent and you felt so bad about it your husband had to make a thread blaming her- you've at the very least not communicated with him enough to make him understand you don't think it's her fault.
You putting your insecure issues and crying about them to your husband- but you're insecure about CS, essentially pinning them on to her-
You're at fault here, and I'm trying to make that clear to you. You were upset over a problem that you created.
Also why would I make an apology thread?
I explained why you should make that thread. Anyway, but why specifically are out blaming me?
Because this thread wouldn't have been made if you had some ability to take responsibility for your actions and emotions
It's also Delora's responsibility to deal with her own feelings, though.
Because a husband should not defend his wife or attempt to comfort her?
Not remotely what I said, but while you're at it, it depends on circumstance.
I didn't say that's what you said, I was asking if that's your conclusion
Why would that be my conclusion?
Idk, br is my husband, and you seem to find fault on a husband (br) trying to defend his wife (me) so it kinda seemed that way
Why would you want him to defend you? Isn't CS innocent?
I didn't say I want that, I simply said he did it. But your reasoning wasn't "cs is innocent" your reasoning was "delora should deal with her own feelings" which is great but I am not the best at hiding my sadness from my husband
It's also Delora's responsibility to deal with her own feelings, though.
Because a husband should not defend his wife or attempt to comfort her?
Not remotely what I said, but while you're at it, it depends on circumstance.
I didn't say that's what you said, I was asking if that's your conclusion
Why would that be my conclusion?
Idk, br is my husband, and you seem to find fault on a husband (br) trying to defend his wife (me) so it kinda seemed that way
Does him being your husband make it any different than anyone else defending you?
So you made yourself feel bad after trying to pimp out your husband and are pining it on cs as a scapegoat?
Delora said:No I don't think she did it on purpose I think she was trying to helpWow lena, your perception on things fascinates me, way to play double speak
Me saying she sees an sc hierarchy and is trying to be on top of it by fucking most of the guys here to feel desirable doesn't negate the fact that you tried to pimp out your husband for a kid and then felt bad about it and had a whole irl issue where he had to make a thread about how you're crying over something you were trying to volunteer him for without his knowledge or consent.
16:35:41
Lena said:Her putting you down and saying essentially that you deserved to be cheated on and (did i read this wrong? She called you ugly and you agreed?) Then putting down your looks?A current summary of what lena is now saying:
Lena said:Wowwwwww delora, your just upset because of YOURSELF, what did cs say to upset you? I'm playing ditz todayMy response: no it's not cs,s fault
You: so your saying-
You just said it wasn't her fault so I've decided not to blame her....did-
Did you want me to blame her anyways?
Ok, so why didn't you say that in the first place? So, you feel you blaming her in the first place was wrong on your part? Also- that's odd, since from the start before you even said any of this I was already saying it wasn't her fault, how many times did me saying the same statement finally convince you? So this means I was right, cs was innocent and ou were wrong? Where is the apology thread?
Your husband and I seem to be in agreement that CS is doing this to be malicious.
Delora I'm blaming you, you're the reason your husband made this thread- you've already said you think she was only trying to help, you're pulling info from a completely different thread to derail what we're talking about here in this thread where I'm saying she has ulterior motives.
You said it's not her fault, fine. So I'm saying that you felt insecure about a surrogacy arrangement that you made where you were essentially trying to pimp out your husband without his consent and you felt so bad about it your husband had to make a thread blaming her- you've at the very least not communicated with him enough to make him understand you don't think it's her fault.
You putting your insecure issues and crying about them to your husband- but you're insecure about CS, essentially pinning them on to her-
You're at fault here, and I'm trying to make that clear to you. You were upset over a problem that you created.
Also why would I make an apology thread?
I explained why you should make that thread. Anyway, but why specifically are out blaming me?
Because this thread wouldn't have been made if you had some ability to take responsibility for your actions and emotions
Well I did take responsibility, multiple times I said "I am just self conscious it's not cs,s fault," yet the thread was still made, so your statement is false as I did take responsibility yet the thread was made anyway. I understand you now know, that cs is innocent and in the right, and did nothing wrong, and that you know she did nothing to harm me in any way, as you are very intelligent loving and good with people, but I myself have had the same conclusion as you the entire time, and only recently it seems you realized I'm right. Friends? :)
Why lena dear, I even apologized publically in chat about the entire thing- it just seems your a little less than up to date on the current occurrence of things, a bit to much so in the lack thereof, to be providing input, wouldn't you say?
It's also Delora's responsibility to deal with her own feelings, though.
Because a husband should not defend his wife or attempt to comfort her?
Not remotely what I said, but while you're at it, it depends on circumstance.
I didn't say that's what you said, I was asking if that's your conclusion
Why would that be my conclusion?
Idk, br is my husband, and you seem to find fault on a husband (br) trying to defend his wife (me) so it kinda seemed that way
Does him being your husband make it any different than anyone else defending you?
I don't know, that's a good question. Can't really say, what do you think?
It's also Delora's responsibility to deal with her own feelings, though.
Because a husband should not defend his wife or attempt to comfort her?
Not remotely what I said, but while you're at it, it depends on circumstance.
I didn't say that's what you said, I was asking if that's your conclusion
Why would that be my conclusion?
Idk, br is my husband, and you seem to find fault on a husband (br) trying to defend his wife (me) so it kinda seemed that way
Does him being your husband make it any different than anyone else defending you?
I don't know, that's a good question. Can't really say, what do you think?
Not really. I think depending on the particular relationship, closeness can make a defender's credibility more or less suspect. Typically more, I suppose, given the myriad of potential biases and faulty motivations. But you really seemed to emphasize that he was your husband, as if this was very relevant to his defense and my opinion of it. Why?
