Wth? lol
Telling you that not acting like an asshole, and precisely how, will make you less lonely is a strawman argument?
And yeah. You've made pro rape and misogynistic statements all over this forum.
That's the root of your loneliness problem.
Duh.
You're prolly way worse irl.
rape
That I'm pro rape or anti women is an obvious straw man for example that you are not able to support with hard evidence. Even if you could take some shit out of context which even that I'm sure you can't and somehow fabricate a case here, I am my own witness. I am not a rapist, not pro rape, not anti women, not pro murder etc. So you just look like an idiot.
Stop being an asshole to everybody around you, maybe?
Being an asshole's actually what helped me fix my loneliness.
Before, I sat there constantly worried and underfoot over what people's expectations are to the point of not talking to anyone. Once I saw that the world's not as fragile as I thought and that they can adapt to who I am, "assholery" became a natural filter that kept all the fake polite fragile types away from me while more socially rough and tumble types seem to appreciate it.
Moral of the story: Be yourself rather than become what you think others are looking for through a constant willingness to meet new people. With this you won't have social upkeep over continuing to play a bit part for the believed sake of others, and you'll have a group of likeminded friends. If you have to show "beneath" your expectations by going to something like a game shop or an anime convention, at least you're still being yourself.
And take a look at the big picture. Embrace it.
The big picture's so big that I'd argue instead towards finding your piece of it within. Trying to be everyone's favorite person (as not a narc) is the ticket to an early grave.
People dislike and dismiss him bc he's rude to them, and then he whines about how lonely he is.
He's been nice to me. 🤷
@ Turncoat:
The point of the vid (which you don't seem to have watched) is to underscore our most damaging paradigms as humans. This idiotic notion that we are so awesome that we deserve to wantonly slaughter species after species and culture after culture to build monuments to our so-called 'greatness' is very close to backfiring in an epic way. We're killing our planet, and will likely destroy ourselves along with it within a few generations.
That id driven greed and violence is the reason that so many are displaced, messed up, lonely, etc.
I didn't say 'tryta be everybody's favourite person.' I said stop being a misogynistic, pro rape fiend, adjust your moral compass, and maybe more people will like you.
"Be yourself and look for ppl who are like you" only works when what a person is at his core is not a misogynistic rapist ffs.
And that works for you?
Yes. When I was younger I really hated being alone. I found myself clinging to people who were bad for me just to avoid it, and anytime I was alone I was usually participating in self-destructive behavior to keep myself from having to focus on the fact I was alone with someone I didnt like.
Why didn't you just seek more desirable people, low self-confidence?
I went through some intense situations in 2017 that forced me to be alone with myself to a breaking point where I really looked at what I didnt like about my life and about myself and realized most of my problems were caused by the toxic people I clung to. Getting away from them forced more time along with myself. Enough that I started changing into someone I like better. Now I've reached a point where I prefer my own company over that of most others. With the exception of Alice, I prefer not to spend more than 2 hours at a time socializing with anyone or it just becomes draining.
As I thought, you have something up with you that makes you drained by it, so naturally you find it easier to just step away from it now that you're older.
You clung to terrible people from a lack of self-confidence, not just loneliness. I've seen less clingy lonely sorts just jump groups rather than stick to a single toxic one.
Learning to be content with yourself.
Even thought PP is the worst person to give that advice as her own personality seems dependent to shine, aka, she needs Alice for example, I have to agree with her.
I'm not dependent on Alice, I just talk about her a lot bc I like her so much and get so excited about her.
Speaking from experience though, having an S.O. you can genuinely live with makes it like 300x easier to live with yourself. Even if not directly speaking the proximity means more than being stuck alone.
Learning to be content with yourself.
Loneliness as the starved appetite for socializing is too natural for this to be enough, unless they have social issues inherently where the appetite wasn't as strong in the first place.
I'll say the Captain Obvious answer: If you're lonely find some people.D7 stated he feels lonely even with people. That's a whole different kind of loneliness. That's the kind of internal loneliness I described above.
Flooding it with even more people's the only way to find people with complimentary traits.
And that works for you?
Yes. When I was younger I really hated being alone. I found myself clinging to people who were bad for me just to avoid it, and anytime I was alone I was usually participating in self-destructive behavior to keep myself from having to focus on the fact I was alone with someone I didnt like.
Why didn't you just seek more desirable people, low self-confidence?
Learning to be content with yourself.
Even thought PP is the worst person to give that advice as her own personality seems dependent to shine, aka, she needs Alice for example, I have to agree with her.
I'm not dependent on Alice, I just talk about her a lot bc I like her so much and get so excited about her.
Speaking from experience though, having an S.O. you can genuinely live with makes it like 300x easier to live with yourself. Even if not directly speaking the proximity means more than being stuck alone.
Flooding it with even more people's the only way to find people with complimentary traits.
I disagree with this.
Maybe Peach is a different kind of person, but some of us are natural introverts, and being around crowds of ppl gets annoying, even when the people we spend our time with are well mannered, considerate, and good for us.
I never get lonely bc I have many interests, and a decent home that's surrounded by a pretty garden, beautiful wildlife, and things that make me happy.
I disagree with this.
Well yeah, your earlier advice was to just "stop being an asshole", aka bend over backwards for what other people want.
Maybe Peach is a different kind of person, but some of us are natural introverts
I'm a natural introvert, but that's no reason to not push yourself.
, and being around crowds of ppl gets annoying, even when the people we spend our time with are well mannered, considerate, and good for us.
So, since you said you "disagree with this", am I to take it that Peach wasn't low-confidence back in her high school days, doesn't find it easier to be around Alice than being by herself, and that she shouldn't bother to find people who will like her for who she is?
Peach's point was over how she clung to undesirable company as a crutch, then "learned" to be "alone" (with Alice) to handle that specific problem. She could have instead tried to spread towards other groups of people rather than retreat into herself or "stop being an asshole".
I never get lonely bc I have many interests, and a decent home that's surrounded by a pretty garden, beautiful wildlife, and things that make me happy.
You get lonely as fuck, that's why you're even here.
