maybe there is a grilfend barrier where if u get x amount it grows exponentially
it actually kinda works like that, when u get a girl every whore tries to flirt with you to "steal" you from your girl and be better than her
lol Word. ^
1 is ok
2 if openly polly makes you a slut, if cheating makes you a piece of shit
3 if openly polly makes you a slut, if cheating makes you a piece of shit
4 at this point these aren't even girlfriends you are just trying to fill a void inside yourself with sex and people
5 at this point these aren't even girlfriends you are just trying to fill a void inside yourself with sex and people
1 is the most you could form a real relationship with. 3 is max that could possibly be considered "girlfriends" in shallow "relationships" with no substance. Any more than that and you are just a brojen person returning to the same fwb to numb pain inside you actually need therapy for.
Why do you assume that a person who prefers polyamorous relationships must be broken? What constitutes a "real" relationship that you feel excludes non-monogamous couples? And is it about more than the sex? Like, do you think a swinger couple aren't in a "real" relationship?
I said broken comes after polly. No one can form a deep romantic relationship with that many people at the same time. Then it's not romance, the person is just a flirt. Intamacy doesnt include infinite people. Saying having even 3 partners counts as relationships was a stretch in my opinion but shit, maybe they've got a day of the week system or something.
Look at polygamamous marriages. Usually there are 1-2 favorites and the rest are baby incubators trapped in loveless marriages.
If intamacy cannot be achieved in a "relationship" than there must be another reason for it. Sex addiction, fear of being alone, insecurity leading to sexual promiscuity as a way to prove one's worth.
All the things that make a relationship strong require forming a unique bond with your partner and trying to form that kind of bond with multiple partners weakens the stregth of them all.
While I agree that one can only have a strong intimacy with so many people at once purely due to time constraint, I don't see why you assume other types of relationships must be negative or have negative motivations. If someone has more than two or three partners they might be grasping for something unrealistic, but they may also simply prefer more novelty and less intimacy. Not everyone wants the same thing out of relationships. Would you say that a non-romantic asexual is broken? They lack the craving for intimacy, just the same. I feel like your opinion on this stems from lingering puritanical ideals in our culture. That sex within the bounds of an intimate relationship is in some way sacred, while other sex is arbitrarily unethical or otherwise a psychological red flag. As long as all parties are clear on what the relationship is and what each member wants and expects out of it, I don't see the issue.
Personally I do crave intimacy, but I'm actually a little jealous of people who don't. It looks freeing. People are exciting, I completely understand the desire to explore, but with the limited time and emotional resources we have, endless exploration means you have to let just as much go. It's like seeing the whole world, at the expense of ever having a stable home. Not for everyone, sure, but I can definitely see the appeal.
maybe there is a grilfend barrier where if u get x amount it grows exponentially
it actually kinda works like that, when u get a girl every whore tries to flirt with you to "steal" you from your girl and be better than her
lol Word. ^
Amen. : P
