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I want money for us to go on a bunch of fun dates together too but what has been happening is we will spend money on that and then end up broke for most of the week which sucks

and we don't want to make money illegal ways we want to be normal civilians and not mess with all of that stuff anymore he just isnt used to it this is new for him

The most you can do is focus on the goals yourself by bettering yourself in a way that allows you to achieve them, through this you lead by example and hopefully he'll follow suit. 

The question though is what motivates him? Above will only work if he values himself as a provider, if he doesn't all that will happen is you'll pull all the weight while he'll continue to be lazy. Maybe he needs his ass kicked, but in reality it sounds like he's gotten his ass kicked most of his life as you have. has that ass kicking motivated him? It seems to have motivated you, you at least know you want more and have put together a plan to obtain what you want. Now its time for you to follow through, if he doesn't it may sadly be the case that he can't do to a lack of discipline. 

Work hard and commit yourself, it shows your resolve to this relationship and to yourself. Through this you'll learn the commitment he has to you and himself. If you find very little commitment its probably best to cut him lose and find someone who will commit to you, and luckily you will have improved yourself and as such could achieve all this on your own and move up the social latter. 

Just do not become his suger momma, I've seen this so many times and it just ends poorly. 

He pays more than I do I'm unemployed lol my mom is kind of helping financially supporting us rn though

yeah I probably have to start making the steps first in all the ways I've seen improvement in him it has always been thru me leading by example or setting appropriate boundaries

I just wish we could do it togetherr tho but maybe he'll follow me very soon after if he sees me starting to take serious steps

and he is very very committed to me lol we spend like all of our time together

we both lack discipline but I want us both to develop it and become and act like mature adults especially if we have a baby together and get married 

we need help budgeting too like we both need to learn to be frugal until we have a lot of income

we both think we will die if we seperate so pretty much if I really need something from him ill threaten to leave and then he freaks out and usually does what I need and vice versa, not the healthiest but we are both learning how to be in a serious committed relationship

he.........pimped out most of his exes and cheated on them tbh and we have found that that will not work in this relationship lol we get heartbroken too easily by eachother

ultimately the easy low effort instant reward lifestyle isn't going to work, and that's what drug dealing lifestyle is and what me being lazy and not getting at least a food service or cashiering job is sooooooo kind of have to move forward at this point do or die / self-destruct destroy each other

I'm going to have to take the first steps on my own and hope he follows soon after kind of already knew but I've been procrastinating too I'm so used to doing things the easy way because of how depressed I was but now I have true love and each day my depression is lessening 

also he needs a psychiatrist and to get a script if adderall probably higher mg and stop stealing mine lol