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goodgirl said: 

Turncoat said: 

goodgirl said: 

Turncoat said: 

Nothing in your life is a problem? Doesn't that strike you as unrealistic, that you either have to convince yourself that you have the biggest problems or no problems at all? 

All lives have problems, and it's healthy to notice that. It's when people do it as a form of self-indulgence, as validation towards themselves, that it can get out of hand. There's nothing wrong with noting the mild to medium toils in your life, in fact many do as badges of honor, but if you are more prone to this "Nothing is Wrong" vs "Everything is Wrong" black & white binary then I'd imagine you being much more prone to stressing the fuck out when compared to other people. 

There's nothing wrong with having problems in your life, and I think it'd help you build a tolerance versus it's poison if you let yourself look at them. After enough exposure all pains become more tolerable, the question is moreover how to expose yourself to it without it killing you. Gaining a thicker skin will in the long run mean you burning through less energy in social situations. 

The point is I'm doing everything right to correct my problems hun, not that I don't have problems

That's fair, but I still think you'd be shocked less by the stressors of life if you let yourself be a little less carefree. 

and it's not true that all pain becomes tolerable, it can have a very detrimental affect on many peoples psyche and destroy lives to the point of no recovering. Why do you think people commit suicide or become addicted to drugs that end up killing them?

Do you see yourself as one of those people, one of the ones who can't take it? 

No I see myself now as a person who isn't going to intentionally, even subconsciously as long as it comes to consciousness, self-harm and self-sabotage anymore as long as I truly have control over it

Self-harming if it cuts you deeply is bad, but things we take for granted like Exercise are also a form of self harm in that you break down your muscles, feel the singe of lactic acid, and then the muscle rebuilds stronger than before. 

You often have to break things down if you want to build it back stronger, and constant pressure can also amount to calluses that make it easier to take skin-deep pain. 

goodgirl said: 

tbh Turncoat I don't see your views of intentionally inflicting pain on yourself to become "stronger?" as very mentally healthy. you might be needing to get therapy for that my dude

If you saw the earlier me you'd likely think otherwise. The experiences here have helped me see that things aren't as scary as they seem, and have helped me understand pains through others that are unlike my own that work as second-hand lessons. 

It also demonstrates for the others what your pain threshold is, which in turn becomes a part of your overall affect on the group and a validating self-comparison over how much you see tested that you can and can't take. Testing removes the mystery, giving you the room to strategize. 

“If you know the enemy and know yourself, you need not fear the result of a hundred battles. If you know yourself but not the enemy, for every victory gained you will also suffer a defeat. If you know neither the enemy nor yourself, you will succumb in every battle.” ― Sun Tzu, The Art of War

Not knowing yourself and your own limits means going in blind, and blindness has a tendency to lead to cycles. 

It is understandable for like physically and endurance, if you are trying to become a soldier but specifically emotional pain and in regards to specifically social relationships? That's pretty fucked lol

It's about having the pain no longer be as painful, such as when I discussed my rape experience on here years ago. If the pains aren't being pushed on some level then I'd be less likely to find ways to adapt to them, instead becoming a ticking time bomb waiting for the next person to prime and trigger me into doing something imbalanced. 

A lot of keeping oneself under control comes with recognizing your own flaws. In my case, managing my stress tolerance is key in that it lowers the daily stress upkeep costs in general through acquiring less of it at a time. The knowledge of how much I can and can't take works like a knowledgeable form of armor, it's demonstration proof of concept based on a history of tests that further emboldens itself through collecting it. 

Breaking down I also see as essential if it's necessary for pushing yourself into the next stage. Again, sometimes you've got to break things down if you wish to rebuild it stronger, and while being sad or angry can be bad in general, avoiding that feeling could itself be the problem. 

Turncoat said: 

goodgirl said: 

tbh Turncoat I don't see your views of intentionally inflicting pain on yourself to become "stronger?" as very mentally healthy. you might be needing to get therapy for that my dude

If you saw the earlier me you'd likely think otherwise. The experiences here have helped me see that things aren't as scary as they seem, and have helped me understand pains through others that are unlike my own that work as second-hand lessons. 

It also demonstrates for the others what your pain threshold is, which in turn becomes a part of your overall affect on the group and a validating self-comparison over how much you see tested that you can and can't take. Testing removes the mystery, giving you the room to strategize. 

“If you know the enemy and know yourself, you need not fear the result of a hundred battles. If you know yourself but not the enemy, for every victory gained you will also suffer a defeat. If you know neither the enemy nor yourself, you will succumb in every battle.” ― Sun Tzu, The Art of War

Not knowing yourself and your own limits means going in blind, and blindness has a tendency to lead to cycles. 

It is understandable for like physically and endurance, if you are trying to become a soldier but specifically emotional pain and in regards to specifically social relationships? That's pretty fucked lol

It's about having the pain no longer be as painful, such as when I discussed my rape experience on here years ago. If the pains aren't being pushed on some level then I'd be less likely to find ways to adapt to them, instead becoming a ticking time bomb waiting for the next person to prime and trigger me into doing something imbalanced. 

A lot of keeping oneself under control comes with recognizing your own flaws. In my case, managing my stress tolerance is key in that it lowers the daily stress upkeep costs in general through acquiring less of it at a time. The knowledge of how much I can and can't take works like a knowledgeable form of armor, it's demonstration proof of concept based on a history of tests that further emboldens itself through collecting it. 

Breaking down I also see as essential if it's necessary for pushing yourself into the next stage. Again, sometimes you've got to break things down if you wish to rebuild it stronger, and while being sad or angry can be bad in general, avoiding that feeling could itself be the problem. 

 I suppose the difference between you and I is I was never truly on sc looking for a friendship circle...........I'm pretty antisocial and don't care much about friends. they can come and go, it's never been important to me. I was more here trying to figure out why all my previous romantic bf/gf relationships were going wrong, as well as just to troll