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Turncoat said: 

The more pain that you're in, the less you find yourself able to face. From over here it looks as if stress is overstimulating for you, and to handle it you convince yourself that the problems are external and, therefor, able to be cast out of your life, yet the same problems keep finding you through newer and newer people. 

I'd recommend letting yourself be overstimulated so that you can get used to it, like sticking your toe in a hot tub to help your body adjust before slowly dipping further and further into it. This place is more like hot water than fire, the scalding of a hot tub eventually feeling nice, warm, comforting. I see places like this website as a means of pushing that while within controlled conditions (like how playing stress-based video games could help with anger management), plus we get to see how others face the heat to help us form comparisons. 

I'm not really seeing anything in my life as a problem atm so I'm not sure if this applies to me, as in I am doing therapy and have my soulmate life partner in my life finally etc

I'm very sensitive and all emotions are overstimulating for me, not just stress. it's why I used to binge drink alcohol and binge eat before adderall

Nothing in your life is a problem? Doesn't that strike you as unrealistic, that you either have to convince yourself that you have the biggest problems or no problems at all? 

All lives have problems, and it's healthy to notice that. It's when people do it as a form of self-indulgence, as validation towards themselves, that it can get out of hand. There's nothing wrong with noting the mild to medium toils in your life, in fact many do as badges of honor, but if you are more prone to this "Nothing is Wrong" vs "Everything is Wrong" black & white binary then I'd imagine you being much more prone to stressing the fuck out when compared to other people. 

There's nothing wrong with having problems in your life, and I think it'd help you build a tolerance versus it's poison if you let yourself look at them. After enough exposure all pains become more tolerable, the question is moreover how to expose yourself to it without it killing you. Gaining a thicker skin will in the long run mean you burning through less energy in social situations. 

Turncoat said: 

Nothing in your life is a problem? Doesn't that strike you as unrealistic, that you either have to convince yourself that you have the biggest problems or no problems at all? 

All lives have problems, and it's healthy to notice that. It's when people do it as a form of self-indulgence, as validation towards themselves, that it can get out of hand. There's nothing wrong with noting the mild to medium toils in your life, in fact many do as badges of honor, but if you are more prone to this "Nothing is Wrong" vs "Everything is Wrong" black & white binary then I'd imagine you being much more prone to stressing the fuck out when compared to other people. 

There's nothing wrong with having problems in your life, and I think it'd help you build a tolerance versus it's poison if you let yourself look at them. After enough exposure all pains become more tolerable, the question is moreover how to expose yourself to it without it killing you. Gaining a thicker skin will in the long run mean you burning through less energy in social situations. 

 The point is I'm doing everything right to correct my problems hun, not that I don't have problems

and it's not true that all pain becomes tolerable, it can have a very detrimental affect on many peoples psyche and destroy lives to the point of no recovering. Why do you think people commit suicide or become addicted to drugs that end up killing them?

if you're correctly solving your problems, there is not too much need to stress :)

goodgirl said: 

Turncoat said: 

Nothing in your life is a problem? Doesn't that strike you as unrealistic, that you either have to convince yourself that you have the biggest problems or no problems at all? 

All lives have problems, and it's healthy to notice that. It's when people do it as a form of self-indulgence, as validation towards themselves, that it can get out of hand. There's nothing wrong with noting the mild to medium toils in your life, in fact many do as badges of honor, but if you are more prone to this "Nothing is Wrong" vs "Everything is Wrong" black & white binary then I'd imagine you being much more prone to stressing the fuck out when compared to other people. 

There's nothing wrong with having problems in your life, and I think it'd help you build a tolerance versus it's poison if you let yourself look at them. After enough exposure all pains become more tolerable, the question is moreover how to expose yourself to it without it killing you. Gaining a thicker skin will in the long run mean you burning through less energy in social situations. 

The point is I'm doing everything right to correct my problems hun, not that I don't have problems

That's fair, but I still think you'd be shocked less by the stressors of life if you let yourself be a little less carefree. 

and it's not true that all pain becomes tolerable, it can have a very detrimental affect on many peoples psyche and destroy lives to the point of no recovering. Why do you think people commit suicide or become addicted to drugs that end up killing them?

Do you see yourself as one of those people, one of the ones who can't take it? 

Turncoat said: 

goodgirl said: 

Turncoat said: 

Nothing in your life is a problem? Doesn't that strike you as unrealistic, that you either have to convince yourself that you have the biggest problems or no problems at all? 

All lives have problems, and it's healthy to notice that. It's when people do it as a form of self-indulgence, as validation towards themselves, that it can get out of hand. There's nothing wrong with noting the mild to medium toils in your life, in fact many do as badges of honor, but if you are more prone to this "Nothing is Wrong" vs "Everything is Wrong" black & white binary then I'd imagine you being much more prone to stressing the fuck out when compared to other people. 

There's nothing wrong with having problems in your life, and I think it'd help you build a tolerance versus it's poison if you let yourself look at them. After enough exposure all pains become more tolerable, the question is moreover how to expose yourself to it without it killing you. Gaining a thicker skin will in the long run mean you burning through less energy in social situations. 

The point is I'm doing everything right to correct my problems hun, not that I don't have problems

That's fair, but I still think you'd be shocked less by the stressors of life if you let yourself be a little less carefree. 

and it's not true that all pain becomes tolerable, it can have a very detrimental affect on many peoples psyche and destroy lives to the point of no recovering. Why do you think people commit suicide or become addicted to drugs that end up killing them?

Do you see yourself as one of those people, one of the ones who can't take it? 

No I see myself now as a person who isn't going to intentionally, even subconsciously as long as it comes to consciousness, self-harm and self-sabotage anymore as long as I truly have control over it

"God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference"

tbh Turncoat I don't see your views of intentionally inflicting pain on yourself to become "stronger?" as very mentally healthy. you might be needing to get therapy for that my dude

It is understandable for like physically and endurance, if you are trying to become a soldier but specifically emotional pain and in regards to specifically social relationships? That's pretty fucked lol

Turncoat said:

Perhaps these self-harm sessions are yet more lessons? It definitely works that way for me anyway. 

 

 What do you engage in that is considered that?

Blanc said: 

Turncoat said:

Perhaps these self-harm sessions are yet more lessons? It definitely works that way for me anyway. 

 

 What do you engage in that is considered that?

Giving people the room to shit on my pain helps me see that it's not as big of a deal. Through seeing others not able to be as painful as they appear in my imagination, it confirms for me that the stress itself is all in the imagination. 

As it overtime budges you less, it becomes easier to be unflinching while stating your opinions. Earlier on in my use of this website I was significantly more sensitive to stupid shit than I am now, and what it's put me through has helped me grow.