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Men: if a woman tells you off using highly personal and sensitive, ego hurting information but much later apologizes using an excuse that they were going through a rough time, can you forgive them? Or, do you hold a grudge forever? What does it take to move past bad words from someone?

Women, any experience with obtaining forgiveness after tossing out some harsh words and a long period of radio silence?
 

Forgiveness because situations can really change people. I know there is nature vs nurture. I seen a lot of studies that show nurture plays a big role. It means he needs more nurture < 3

Edit: Oh wait I misunderstood.... Forget it.

I hold the same grudge either for men and women and they last forever. It's a bummer because my grudge list just grows as I go older. I just can't forgive.

Women, any experience with obtaining forgiveness after tossing out some harsh words and a long period of radio silence?

Sometimes they're like "its fine, whatever." or "don't worry about it, I've already forgotten."  but they haven't.

And trying to talk about it doesn't help so then they just let you think its fine and Its the past but they're bottling it up for a rainy day and when they finally pop- they will mention it even if it has nothing to do with the current argument. And you will be so confused.

Men fight it out and women talk it out. There will never be forgiveness unless you punch him in the face.

On a more serious note:

I tend to want to talk it out but will completely shut down if I'm the one at fault. I hold grudges for a while but then I just think how completely childish that is and reach out to them. If they keep ignoring me I make multiple attempts to reach out again and then I realize I'm being annoying and assume they've decided that its too much effort and will just let whatever type of relationship that is end.

AIena stated: source post

Sometimes they're like "its fine, whatever." or "don't worry about it, I've already forgotten."  but they haven't.\

Yeah this ^

There will never be forgiveness unless you punch him in the face.\

Maybe I should do this but it might be awkward...? Plus, I have terrible aim. I'd probably hit him in the elbow or something and then he be like wtf, weirdo? :( 

Waltz Inaminor stated: source post

I hold the same grudge either for men and women and they last forever. It's a bummer because my grudge list just grows as I go older. I just can't forgive.

this is interesting. Why are you unable to forgive? Have you ever forgave someone? 

Missbehaved stated: source post

Forgiveness because situations can really change people. I know there is nature vs nurture. I seen a lot of studies that show nurture plays a big role. It means he needs more nurture < 3

 

Edit: Oh wait I misunderstood.... Forget it.

Ya. I think you misunderstood but I think I agree with you except I don't understand the more nurture part. I mean I don't think that is something you can fix for someone else. 

AIena stated: source post

On a more serious note:

I tend to want to talk it out but will completely shut down if I'm the one at fault. I hold grudges for a while but then I just think how completely childish that is and reach out to them. If they keep ignoring me I make multiple attempts to reach out again and then I realize I'm being annoying and assume they've decided that its too much effort and will just let whatever type of relationship that is end.

 

If someone I cared for ignores me I think I must have been delusional to think they were better than they are. They likely never cared about me at all and were using me. If someone can't even express their issues it says a lot about their character to me. I let the relationship die but I feel great disappointment if they mattered to me.