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How legit are your emotional reactions?


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Shallow but frequent seems like an adequate description. Like sometimes I feel it and its the worst thing ever but I'll be absolutely fine in a couple of hours, then in a couple of days it hits me again suddenly and it'll ruin my day.

 

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"feel about feelings"? 

Um, isn't it time  you took a break from obsessive-compulsive introspection and went outside?   Vitamin D deficit can do nasty things to the brain as well.  

 

 

As for the question:  the dichotomy presented sounds a random one,  frankly. How's about, say,  shallow and infrequent,  or deep and frequent?  Or any combination of the four, plus some more?  All fall well within the range of normal.    You got a problem only when feelings get dislodged from thinking (or even run contrary to thinking),  that's when you get cooties like BPD or cognitive dissonance etc. 

In short,  frequency / intensity has fuckall to do with validity, IMO.    

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I am incredibly unstable.

I am also capable of Mania for some parts of my life.

But i can feel.

Compassion, affection and respect can be engendered in me.

 

I don't expect others to respond to me or find my emotional response to them a matter of influence or value.

 

I also feel extended periods of emotional blankness or exceedingly limited emotional response.

I prefer a codified set of responses based on those periods where i am more emotionally capable.

I cannot rely on natural emotional responses.

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That's good.   (My full-blown envy for the beach, lucky bastard!   It's quite a drive from here. (My other place it's closer, but the weather sucks full year 'round there, so either way i'm cursed.  I know i get barking mad if i don't get enough sun / beach-time.) 

 

Added to my prev. post  above, this bit: 

  • the dichotomy presented sounds a random one,  frankly. How's about, say,  shallow and infrequent,  or deep and frequent?  Or any combination of the four, plus some more?  All fall well within the range of normal.    You got a problem only when feelings get dislodged from thinking (or even run contrary to thinking),  that's when you get cooties like BPD or cognitive dissonance etc. 

    In short,  frequency / intensity has fuckall to do with validity, IMO.    

 

It's just that i have a dislike of introspection (esp. the excessive kind),  nothing personal, no offence meant.   I think it bores the hell out of me.

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I meant introspection of my own bores the hell out of me.  Even though i do it from time to time, sort of 'maintenance chore'.   

Observing strangers' introspection is extraspection. 

 

Ideally,  thoughts and feelings shouldn't be separated.    That was my point - when they get separated  (incongruent), then something's likely gone wrong.  Which indeed calls for some introspection, to find out what.

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"Do you tend to experience emotions that are more shallow, but frequent, or deeper, but not very often?"

Deeper and often. It's a crippling vulnerability but, gives me a lot more passion and zeal when it comes to the things I love.

"How sincere do you feel about your feelings? If that makes sense."

They're the only real thing to me and I've reluctantly learned to treasure them

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How legit are your emotional reactions?

Do you tend to experience emotions that are more shallow, but frequent, or deeper, but not very often?

Shallow emotions that are frequent. Unless its anger, which is usually pretty high.

Or any other combination. How sincere do you feel about your feelings? If that makes sense.

I fake emotion a lot, so not that sincere. it depends on the person often

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there is an element of truth to the emotions i express, they are real.. but much more played out than they really are. Sometimes I give a emotional reaction, hoping that maybe I will start to feel that way, and match what I am expressing.

If I am not having anxiety, I can control my emotions for the most part.

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"Do you tend to experience emotions that are more shallow, but frequent, or deeper, but not very often? Or any other combination. How sincere do you feel about your feelings? If that makes sense."

That depends on who I'm dealing with. For example, if someone comes up to me at work with a coupon for boxed burger patties (this happened multiple times last week), I can't just say, "they're in the frozen aisle, dumbass." But if I think you can handle it, I'll probably say, "they're in the frozen aisle, dumbass." I don't feel like my feelings are either shallow or deep, I feel they are natural reactions of my character. I prefer to be frank. When I'm not, it's because I can't be.

In the thread where it was asked what one word you would use to describe yourself, I chose "placid." Because I am not easily excited or upset. I do feel, but I don't contemplate deeply on these feelings, I just note them or react to them. I do not ruminate over mistakes I've made, or my achievements. These things seem to me like processes people go through while trying to piece together a narrative of their existence. Externally, that probably makes me appear shallow. But I'm not shallow, I am pragmatical about my feelings.

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Too frequently and too deep, which would be a good thing if we were talking about something else. 

I actively try to suppress (kill?) my overly emotional self. Sometimes it works, most of the time it doesn't. When I take long breaks from here it's usually because my personal life is in shambles and there's no way I could possibly hide it, even on a stupid forum like this. 

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