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wtf is a street dad
"Is there anyone in your life you can share anything with?"
You guys. I have certain friends I tell certain things, but no one gets the entire picture in my personal life. I'm not able to paint it on a blank canvas like I can here with no repercussions or loss of reputation. This site was just a huge vent for me
"What kinds of people do you find disarming, even if they've yet to really earn your trust. "
Certain women. I cant even point out why as the ones that disarmed me have no correlation to eachother and few overlapping traits. I think it's about where I'm at mentally and if i am or aren't in a period of depression. I don't think this applies to me today, if anything when I sense a level of excessive openness I lock myself down until Im in a better head space.
Xena stated: source post
"So do you feel people would be more likely to judge you versus admire you for what you overcame? "
Yup. I know it for a fact. People lose their shit over homelessness, even if the former homeless person has been housed for years or decades. They make retarded assumptions about why the brush with homelessness occurred, and use those stereotypes as excuses to attack and make every attempt to exploit the person. Even if a person seems somewhat progressive in their views about poverty, I usually don't bother anymore bc I just get tired of answering the same stupid questions about the same stupid stereotypes 8000 times.
I wish there was some magic formula to determine 'trust at first sight'
Maybe it comes down to acceptance. If we finally accept our past and ourselves it won't matter if our 'secrets' are leaked to anyone else.
Nope. I'm 100% fine with the person I used to be, the person I've become, and all of the excruciating inbetween steps it took to get me here.. I'm interesting, well rounded, funny and a helluva debater. I have skills and talents, smthg of value to contribute to society.
I find that when my secrets leak, there's always somebody who will try to use it to get me fired from my job or kicked out of my house. Or they call CPS. That's just what people believe ought to happen to homeless/ formerly homeless people.
It's not bc of anything I actually did. It's bc people believe that homelessness is a result of some deep and irrepairable character flaw that might contaminate them somehow. The rhetoric and stereotypes are more compelling than the fact standing right in front of them.
@ Mollie: ^ That's exactly what I was saying. See how Sugar and Cad make assumptions about who my street dad was to me? That's common irl too.
These idiots can't do anything to me with their fuktarded trolling, but somebody who knows my last name, address and birthdate can cause some really annoying legal difficulties with lies like this.
Yeah yeah... it's not true and I can prove it. But the time spent proving it is time I'd rather spend on other things.
So again, I've seen dozens of idiots like Cad and Sugar and their half a dozen lameass trolling tacks over the course of my lifetime. They seem to come out of the woodwork when somebody mentions homelessness.
I learned early in life to not discuss homelessness with people who actually matter. It's just easier that way.