I would disagree Astamiss. Fear breeds contempt or forced conformity, not respect.
Well fear brings respect...
The problem is I can't be feared. I mean I even went up to the person I sacked in fifth grade and he told me he is not afraid of me in the least bit. I even reminded him of the time I sacked him and he said he is not afraid whatsoever. I thought maybe it is because he is a big guy. I started asking around the school and found no one to tremble for me.
When teachers give out surveys to make everyone say something about each member in their class including people who do not like each other... I just got cute, innocent, nice smile, kind, funny, silly... The opposite of intimidating. I was a bit bummed at first though I decided I'm not scary and that's alright.
As a teenager, people admired the fact I would always do something bold. I was the first to try things (New mixes of alcoholic beverages, ecstasy, et cetera). I was like a Boss. I gave orders and people kissed my ass. I always won a fist fight. They all feared me and it was wonderful. It gave me more power over them.
I think I do. Since as a child I liked to show the kids in the neighbor how merciless and brutal I can be and enjoyed having them become all submissive and acting sweet, made me feel powerful and big. I would select one of our playmates to be the punching bag and kick / punch him repeatedly while watching the other kids stare fearfully or cry and that give me a rush that I can't describe. Only later on I realized that this might not be the best image to possess so I switched to less violent tactics but until then I wore the words "violent" "cruel" "liar" like a badge of honour because they translated to "superior, powerful, smarter" in my child / teen head.