What is the meaning of forgiveness?
Is it hard for you to forgive?
Are you against it?
Is there something you did that you wish someone else would forgive you for?
What about forgiving yourself?
Most of the time perceived slights against people are just due to differences in worldviews or different perceptions of the facts. In those cases I'm fast to forgive as long as the other part ends up seeing the situation for what it is or if they present a compelling case for their interpretation of reality.
Some justifications I can buy, I don't however let time heal things and never see it as a good reason to forgive someone. In general I'm not forgiving. I'm also against forgiving people without a valid justification and will look down upon and try to stop people from acting in that way.
I have done nothing worth being sorry for or meriting forgiveness, not to myself nor anyone else.
It's easy for me to forgive others in a sense. I'm quick to blame the circumstance on myself for letting something happen or trusting someone so it's fairly easy in that regard. I'm not sure if that's true forgiveness though, just shift of blame.
My go to motto is "forgive but don't forget" I don't see the point in holding an individual accountable unless I'm stuck to them. You had to of been my friend at one point for me to hold anything against you.
As for wanting to be forgiven, I'm sure there's a fair share of incidents. I have enough guilt to try and go above and beyond to make amends to those I care about.
Forgiving myself is something I only understand on a conceptual level. I'm a chronic self blamer and even if I Tell myself it's fine, I still feel otherwise when I shouldn't. I truly forgive myself when I've seen I've learned from said mistake by facing a similar circumstance and leaving it with a favorable outcome.
i forgive human nature, we are all human and act accordingling
just because i forgive does not mean i will not get even, if the act deserves it, you most likely will not even know about it
like your dog just disappearing one day, nice doggy, you want a meat ball full of sleeping pills, sleepy time
What is the meaning of forgiveness?
To let go of things that disrupt your comforts and piece of mind. Regardless if we express it to the forgiven or not, forgiveness it's very much for the self. The result of forgiveness produces positive qualities that will equate to a happier, healthier, more focused you, as opposed to investing your limited time in whining or carrying unresolved shit that will never be solved in a rage.
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Is it hard for you to forgive?
It can be.
Are you against it?
In some cases, yes and no. I'm repulsed by stupidity, and for my own good I have to distance myself from people who come across as stupid. I'll try to be nice to them once or twice, and if I come at them aggressively, it's an attempt to sharpen them up. People would see this as nothing to forgive, but for my own sake I have to let it slide.
Is there something you did that you wish someone else would forgive you for?
Nothing comes to mind. I have a person holding a grudge against me. Everyone else sees what I've done and they think it was fine. Now this person who's holding the grudge against me is on their own in hating on me, she refuses to forgive, she carries this weight on her shoulders while everyone else in the world is far beyond this illness that has her hissing in misery at me.
See what Cadaver wrote ? I see that as underdeveloped state of thinking that would have an immortal begging for death. One may not believe in eternal life, but the suggested practices in how to carry yourself into eternity works the same in this temporary state of being.
Forgiveness doesn't mean you have to start being nice and friendly, and playing out the routines society programmed you to do, but in that case do not resent or show any sign of disrespect lest the forces that eat you will gain merit, then down you go.
What about forgiving yourself?
I've managed to avoid any serious guilt for a very long time. But if I was under attacked by my conscience the only way to get over it, or forgive myself, would be to fix it, or at least make an attempt to fix whatever it is. Without being proactive, we won't just forgive ourselves so easily, and memories will haunt us, which might not suck too bad.
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What is the meaning of forgiveness?
WW said it best, not feeling resentment anymore. It's not something I can control, despite trying or wanting to rationally.
Is it hard for you to forgive?
Depends on the nature of the offense. For example I'd forgive stealing or lying to me much more easily than turning against me/wanting to do me harm. If you do smth that makes me see you in a completely different light, that proves me extremely wrong in my assessment of you, forgiving you is close to impossible, even if I know that I'm partly to blame in that. Blaming myself for stuff related to you makes me hard to overcome my resentment.
Are you against it?
No, forgiving brings more inner peace.
Is there something you did that you wish someone else would forgive you for?
Yeah, a lot.
What about forgiving yourself?
I do my best to undo or mend the harm I've done, make things right again, or as right as it's humanly possible for me. My active efforts in that sense make me forgive myself and get closure, even if the damage can't be undone.
Same goes to people who have wronged me, if they try hard to mend it.
"What is the meaning of forgiveness?"
In my eyes, it is the excusing of transgressions. Willingness to pardon them. This may or may not involve a return to how a person felt about the other prior to what was taken offense to.
"Is it hard for you to forgive?"
No, my anger tends to be short-lived. Like Systematic, my stance stance with forgiveness tends to be "forgive, but don't forget."
"Are you against it?"
I have no grudges.
"Is there something you did that you wish someone else would forgive you for?"
If I have been untoward, I try to make appropriate amends, depending upon the person. Whether or not I am forgiven for my behavior is not something I am usually particularly invested in. So to answer the question...no, not currently.
"What about forgiving yourself?"
I don't see a point in beating up myself over things I've done. I do reflect upon the things I do, and sometimes alter my behavior if I feel it should be corrected.
How about yourself?
"What is the meaning of forgiveness?"
Means to let go of some event that caused you damage, without getting any positive feedback in return(like revenge or justice).
"Is it hard for you to forgive?"
It depends who, i can forgive people i like in almost an instant. Which is why i always back away and think about it a lot in that case, because i might make a mistake. Otherwise its near impossible for me to forgive someone else, but i usually forget instead. And it usually doesn't take long, as i do not associate with people who do damage to me.
"Are you against it?"
No, but i like confrontation and forgiving ends it. Unless, like i said, i like the person, then i do not want damage to be done on either side.
"Is there something you did that you wish someone else would forgive you for?"
Yes. And i believe they have.
"What about forgiving yourself?"
I never feel guilty for long enough to require this. The few times i have felt guilt, it was shallow, shocking, fast and short lived.
Perhaps if i didn't get forgiven, i might have a different answer. But i am careful when it comes to people i like, so its rare i even care about guilt of any sort.
And i find people who are constantly feeling guilty to be dwelling in self-pity. Own up to your actions and take reality as it is, pick up and rise, do not shit your pants in sorrow. Ofc a period of sadness is to be expected for most people, but that period should eventually end and even during it, you need to understand what is going on and remember: understanding =/= controlling your feelings, but its the first step.
"If you haven't yet lost the ability to ask, you may not yet ask for relief."