Don't know her but she seems alright.
There's a free ebook on amazon. It might provide insight.
Edit: Damn one site classifies it under dark romance and erotica.
Turncoat stated: source post
We're both critical people who love to argue, but we tend to accomplish more that way with actual talking. For the areas we're in agreeance over, I mean come on, we ended up dating somehow, go figure that we'd have some common ground. I wouldn't really say she defends constantly either, she actually spends much more time typing about things that don't have to do with me. She has an identity outside of me, you know, opinions that are there because they're her own and not an extension of mine.
Finding excuses for why someone might agree or defend me only serves to undermine their own opinion, and at that point, what of those who agree/defend me who aren't dating me? Do they just want to get in my pants?
Come on Turn… You can't be this oblivious of how often you two side up in arguments, talk for each other and feel compelled to join in when the other is either putting pressure or put under pressure. Tell me, when was the last time one of you got in an argument with someone and the other stayed out of it, mm? Cadaver, ww3, astamiss, xena, me, mee, tryptamine all ended up doubleteamed by you. No other 2 random people here have your record, and trust me I have a big database of conflicts. I can also compare your behavior pre and post hook-up.
The explanation is simple. You care more, pay more attention and are more inclined to state your opinions and feelings in arguments if the other is involved. This doesn't invalidate your opinions, I'm sure you just say what's on your mind and it's your right. It would be ridiculous for anyone to expect either of you to shut up. But you are moved personally to join forces because of your relationship. I've had people tell me they agreed with me in chat for example, even the other day, but were not bothered enough to post in the thread and show their support. You two will find the extra motivation though. A small example: when someone is harassed/picked on the forum, you won't be inclined to point out any "weird obsessions" unless you believe it's Crow.
Given that you two are close, you end up routinely involved in conflicts together and give the "couple gang up" feel to it. And it's perfectly normal and understandable, you're a couple. If DNJack and Cricket got into drama more often you'd see the same behavior I'm sure. Nothing to be ashamed of. Just don't claim that your relationship doesn't affects your dynamics here, as if we're fucking blind and can't see it. That's insulting.
You two will find the extra motivation though. A small example: when someone is harassed/picked on the forum, you won't be inclined to point out any "weird obsessions" unless you believe it's Crow.
I don't follow.
Given that you two are close, you end up routinely involved in conflicts together and give the "couple gang up" feel to it.
Similar schedules, similar opinions, and we have plenty of pickings towards people without the other involved.
And it's perfectly normal and understandable, you're a couple.
If we weren't a couple it'd be some other excuse I'm sure, or if I were coupled with someone else, or even in lieu of that labeling, simply very close friends with some on here, you'd be trying to claim similar bias guiding it instead of figuring why these people must be figuring it in the first place. If it was in your defense instead of your offense, you'd likely not even venture this far since agreeing with you you'd figure makes sense to do.
You have so many excuses for another person's behavior when it doesn't fall in line with your projections, whether that's excusing them for doing something you don't agree with, or excusing someone's motives for going against you as not being related to yourself. It simply doesn't make sense to you otherwise if it breaks the impressions that you've solidified.
If DNJack and Cricket got into drama more often you'd see the same behavior I'm sure. Nothing to be ashamed of.
Of course you'd bring up another case where it was two vs you. I was also saying things at your expense in that topic, does that mean that Cricket, DNJack, Crow, and I must be in some sort of foursome? In cases where Alena's argued alongside Crow and I, is that some sort of threesome in the making? When Sugar, Dynastia, and I were in cahoots with some forum drama, was that us having a Tryst? When we were all having fun at Xena's expense, was this some sort of mass orgy where your invitation got quote unquote "lost in the mail"?
Even in that topic you try to paint the TurnCrow narrative, a topic she never even replied to, that had absolutely no relevance towards her. She and I aren't coming to each other's "rescue" as much as how much you bring up that it's likely to happen and how much you're overlooking where we type independently of each other. I'm on the forum much more often than she is, and when she's gone long for long enough stretches or she doesn't come to my defense fast enough for your liking you start spazzing out about her being gone and re-referencing that that's what you expect her to do, reinforcing that image even when we're not a part of it.
The most posting-style bias I'll accept is that I tend to disagree with people less out in the open when I'm on PMing terms with them. Those I'm PMing more regularly though I'm probably PMing like that from compatible thoughts or typing styles anyway, so there would probably be less disagreeing with them in general as is (or it'd play out more civilly). I'll also usually post a disagreement on the forum in hopes of it drawing in outside attention onto the point, as if I don't see much room for growth (or consequently, if I see that my posting will go against the growth that I desire), I'll usually sit back and wait for someone else to do it first or just let it sit there until a future time makes it worth referencing.
Edit: What's equally annoying is that, if she felt compelled to contribute to this, you'd see it as further proof to your claim.