Love to me feels more like selfish obsession.
I love to take a good shit. Is that selfish of me ?
No one has any true way of knowing what others are feeling, regardless of how similar their own feelings may be. We have guesswork based on personal experience, observation of behaviours, and the descriptions others give of their own feelings. For example, you assume that I don't feel anything similar to what you define as love, based on my own descriptions of my feelings, while not actually having any clue yourself. Ain't inference swell? ; )