Do it :D
@trypt
It's somewhat sad that people always focus on likeminded individuals. It's true that it is easier, though. I wonder if that's the source of unkindness though, people tend to hold on to their own. Nice post.
@digital
People are silly. I find people who are not on the same wavelength as me interesting though. There aren't that many I feel are on the same wavelength as me, and I've learned to appreciate the differences, even if they don't. I believe it pays off to be nice as long as you're not doing it at your own expense; people derive good feelings from a lot of trivial and superficial things which cost us nothing I suppose.
I think doing good things is great for your mental and physical health. There's some research on donating; people donate because it increases their levels of oxytocin. I think I think I will donate more in the future.
@edvard
I was looking forward to your reply because I thought you would have the opposite view. Can you argue your point without just discrediting people? I could do some kitchen psychoanalysis on your alpha male problems and post quotes here to discredit you but I wont, because it is silly.
You misunderstood chapter 2. One could give people a dozen chances and they would still fail. The problem is not necessarily anyone's fault per se, what I am arguing is that people don't realize how they are acting, and I am including myself in this category of people (see Section \ref{sec:4}).
Most of the time people aren't conscious of the whys of their actions. That's pretty much why there is research on psychology.
I realized that not only did strangers not like me when I wasnt having a broad smile on my face, but neither did my newly made friends. Not that they were surprised to not see me smiling, but they simply started connecting negative thoughts with me and assumed I was responsible for making them enjoy themselves. I realized that even the social outcasts who I befriended wanted nothing to do with me the moment a group no longer respected me.
I decided that people were superficial, and that their innate nature stops them from being nice.
Not everyone's friends like one less when one is down, or in a bad mood. I get from rant number 2 that you can't get along well with people so you "decide" that the problem lays with them.
Well I can only tell how you come off here, and that's inconsistent, and not genuine. You're trying too hard to be liked sometimes, you sound fake cheery, only to sound serious and depressed 2 posts later. I think in real life too you worry too much about how you're seen, "faking smiles" because when not smiling makes people not like you back. People sense that, sense that the social bonding that comes naturally to them is forced, and comes with effort, from you. It's what keeps them "superficial", you're blocking them out.
Take these posts for example:
by LeggaYahoo, yahoo!
Yup we are, hughug
by LeggaYup thats because you need less of them! ^^ I think those silly private section engineers are tools even if they are the smartest people there. Tools are still needed though. In academics, they would be the bosses, making them not only masters of the Universe (pthui, I cant imagine Im saying this about engineers) but also masters of these meaningless ants! The boss engineers often dont have enough time for mastering the Universe though so they end up in a lower position in the science world where being intelligent and creative matters.
All hail the big boss engineers and sales people!
They seem off. You just come off as awkward and unnatural. Maybe other posters here will identify better what is it about you and what you say that makes you an outcast. What I can say for sure is that you should look at yourself for the problem, not at everyone else.