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by LeggaLet's discuss human nature, feelings, love, disgust and people's intrinsic value.
Section 1 - Rant
I have found that my feelings tell me that people are ugly. It's been a long process, and after giving everyone a chance and after pondering for a long while I've decided to pass judgement on most of humanity. Not that it matters, mind you.
I'm smart. I started doing university math around primary school and around the middle of high school my life became all about physics. Since entering school I always felt I needed to dumb myself down for other people because I thought that's what everyone did and I wanted to fit in. At some point I realized it's not everyone who is doing it but just me, and I felt kind of silly myself. I didn't really feel like I belonged, I could somewhat relate to some of my friends on the Internet but any intelligent discussion with my peers had always been out of the window. I became slightly unsocial and since I was a teenager I was angst as well. I also started to feel superior to people
When I got to the University things were no better. Now people were also egoistic and insecure. At some point, I realized that I shouldnt judge people by my own best qualities, because the simple fact is that nobody is as good at being me as myself. Over time, I had developed a warped view of people; I judged them by their achievements, their problem solving skills, their creativity and all the other things I was good at. I was better at those things than people I associated with, and that may be why I chose those things to compare myself with other people.
Section 2 - Judging people, and rant
I developed an idea of intrinsic self-worth; maybe somehow each of us is valuable just for being ourselves. I thought I could try to evaluate people by their kindness instead of what they had achieved, and I wished I could then see people's nice side. People fail at this, too.
I decided to start improving my social skills; I had been focusing on physics so intensely I almost forgot to socialize. I read a lot on socializing and started more conversations, chit chatting probably for the first time in my life. I learned how to use body language, how to smile, how to communicate my thoughts with enthusiasm, how to flirt and how to listen. I wanted to be kind to everyone, having been kind of an outcast for a long while myself. I started to get the hang of things, and people, including strangers, seemed to get along with me. I organized a lot of events and invited everyone into each of them. I think I helped a lot of people to make friends, especially people who were previously neglected by the bigger groups.
Needless to say, I made a lot of friends. I also realized that people seem to be more concerned with how people appear than I thought. I realized that most of what I say is taken either positively or negatively solely based on my body language and the look on my face, rather judging it based on what I say. Group dynamics dictate whether my opinion is valid or not, as does how assertively I state my opinion.
I realized that not only did strangers not like me when I wasnt having a broad smile on my face, but neither did my newly made friends. Not that they were surprised to not see me smiling, but they simply started connecting negative thoughts with me and assumed I was responsible for making them enjoy themselves. I realized that even the social outcasts who I befriended wanted nothing to do with me the moment a group no longer respected me.
I decided that people were superficial, and that their innate nature stops them from being nice. Im sure the mentioned people didnt even notice what they were doing.
Section 3 - Love
I had decided that kindness is silly. but I held to the idea of love. This is the one innate quality people surely have. It turns out people are capable of love. It's the one thing I discovered exists. It comes in the form of oxytocin hormone, it lasts about 1-3 years and it drives people to bond and to do silly things. A research I read about monogamous animals that have some of the most affectionate and cute relationships that last their whole lifetime showed that when they stop the production of oxytocin within these animals, they neglect their loving partner and start screwing everything that moves. It made me think about the definition of superficial and whether my definition of love is based on something superficial.
A superficial person, according to vocabulary.com, is a person who does not care about meaningful things. Occasionally, people joke about a young girl marrying an old rich guy. The love is based on the young girl getting money, and the rich guy getting eye candy. Love, on the other hand, is a feeling we have for "the one" after we spend enough time with them accompanied with looking deep into their eyes, laughing with them and having physical contact. Or, as I would like to say, it's a state where we are producing oxytocin in the presence of that person.
If I was given a chance to take a happiness drug with no side effects, I would take it. Likewise, I like being in love. I felt slightly superficial realizing that I'm just chasing love because I'm a happy drug junkie though. I was also a bit disappointed to know that love will fade at some point, replaced by a feeling of familiarity and maybe some other form of attachment. Having said that, I think it makes sense to choose relationships based not only on love, but also on pure hard logic.
These days, I accept that the decision of who I like is largely dictated by looks; fact I previously refused to accept.
Section 4 - Summary
-Most people, including me, are intrinsically ugly and not in charge of their own mind
-There is very little real kindness in the world
-Love is good
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Let's discuss human nature, feelings, love, disgust and people's intrinsic value.
Section 1 - Rant
I have found that my feelings tell me that people are ugly. It's been a long process, and after giving everyone a chance and after pondering for a long while I've decided to pass judgement on most of humanity. Not that it matters, mind you.
I'm smart. I started doing university math around primary school and around the middle of high school my life became all about physics. Since entering school I always felt I needed to dumb myself down for other people because I thought that's what everyone did and I wanted to fit in. At some point I realized it's not everyone who is doing it but just me, and I felt kind of silly myself. I didn't really feel like I belonged, I could somewhat relate to some of my friends on the Internet but any intelligent discussion with my peers had always been out of the window. I became slightly unsocial and since I was a teenager I was angst as well. I also started to feel superior to people
When I got to the University things were no better. Now people were also egoistic and insecure. At some point, I realized that I shouldnt judge people by my own best qualities, because the simple fact is that nobody is as good at being me as myself. Over time, I had developed a warped view of people; I judged them by their achievements, their problem solving skills, their creativity and all the other things I was good at. I was better at those things than people I associated with, and that may be why I chose those things to compare myself with other people.
Section 2 - Judging people, and rant
I developed an idea of intrinsic self-worth; maybe somehow each of us is valuable just for being ourselves. I thought I could try to evaluate people by their kindness instead of what they had achieved, and I wished I could then see people's nice side. People fail at this, too.
I decided to start improving my social skills; I had been focusing on physics so intensely I almost forgot to socialize. I read a lot on socializing and started more conversations, chit chatting probably for the first time in my life. I learned how to use body language, how to smile, how to communicate my thoughts with enthusiasm, how to flirt and how to listen. I wanted to be kind to everyone, having been kind of an outcast for a long while myself. I started to get the hang of things, and people, including strangers, seemed to get along with me. I organized a lot of events and invited everyone into each of them. I think I helped a lot of people to make friends, especially people who were previously neglected by the bigger groups.
Needless to say, I made a lot of friends. I also realized that people seem to be more concerned with how people appear than I thought. I realized that most of what I say is taken either positively or negatively solely based on my body language and the look on my face, rather judging it based on what I say. Group dynamics dictate whether my opinion is valid or not, as does how assertively I state my opinion.
I realized that not only did strangers not like me when I wasnt having a broad smile on my face, but neither did my newly made friends. Not that they were surprised to not see me smiling, but they simply started connecting negative thoughts with me and assumed I was responsible for making them enjoy themselves. I realized that even the social outcasts who I befriended wanted nothing to do with me the moment a group no longer respected me.
I decided that people were superficial, and that their innate nature stops them from being nice. Im sure the mentioned people didnt even notice what they were doing.
Section 3 - Love
I had decided that kindness is silly. but I held to the idea of love. This is the one innate quality people surely have. It turns out people are capable of love. It's the one thing I discovered exists. It comes in the form of oxytocin hormone, it lasts about 1-3 years and it drives people to bond and to do silly things. A research I read about monogamous animals that have some of the most affectionate and cute relationships that last their whole lifetime showed that when they stop the production of oxytocin within these animals, they neglect their loving partner and start screwing everything that moves. It made me think about the definition of superficial and whether my definition of love is based on something superficial.
A superficial person, according to vocabulary.com, is a person who does not care about meaningful things. Occasionally, people joke about a young girl marrying an old rich guy. The love is based on the young girl getting money, and the rich guy getting eye candy. Love, on the other hand, is a feeling we have for "the one" after we spend enough time with them accompanied with looking deep into their eyes, laughing with them and having physical contact. Or, as I would like to say, it's a state where we are producing oxytocin in the presence of that person.
If I was given a chance to take a happiness drug with no side effects, I would take it. Likewise, I like being in love. I felt slightly superficial realizing that I'm just chasing love because I'm a happy drug junkie though. I was also a bit disappointed to know that love will fade at some point, replaced by a feeling of familiarity and maybe some other form of attachment. Having said that, I think it makes sense to choose relationships based not only on love, but also on pure hard logic.
Section 4 - Summary
-Most people, including me, are intrinsically ugly and not in charge of their own mind
-There is very little real kindness in the world
-Love is good
There are a lot of people who claim to respect it, yet I believe that after a thorough inspection they don't. In the end, we are all hard-wired to think of our own benefit. People's main drivers are their emotions, physiology, intelligence and need for survival.
Even encouraging others to be nice seems beneficial to the people advertising that. I feel stupid for trying now.
by Digital LaughterYeah, most people suck.
I've always thought this a strange view for people who are successful or just naturally gifted. People are simply people, are they not? They take in experience, and how their brains are structured translates that into behavior. They have no control over it, and it isn't their fault for how they are. Input and output. Are you looking for kinship, or what? You mentioned you like people similar to yourself.
Yes, and even what a person claims to be "intrinsically valuable" varies from person to person. That's just life though; the best thing you can do is find like-minded people to surround yourself with. Evaluating people by their perceived positive characteristics doesn't change who they are or your chemistry with them, and if you do that with everyone you find yourself constantly around people whose company is tedious, sooner or later.