by Aurora BorealisHow to be charming in one easy step:
- Mirroring - their gestures, the way of speaking, opinions, feelings... After this they open up. Take your time to see what they want to hear, give it to them.
Yes, a classic.
Another one is repeating certain phrases that they say for emphasis. Not only does it ensure that you're paying attention, but it makes it seem like their words have lasting impression and you find what they say interesting. Be careful with timing though, no one wants to be talked all over.
BTW, In my opinion being charming in and of itself isn't the bad kind of manipulation. Unfortunately, too many people use charm to serve negative agendas.